(Closed) Planning Topic Feedback from the Hive!

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
Bee
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

@ostrich: This is a great idea! I would love to know what people are interested in reading. Laughing

Post # 4
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Hm. I think the response can vary greatly because we are all so different.
For example, while I can see why the perfect shade of nail polish can be important for some…I could really care less! But that’s because I’m not a makeup frills kinda girl
While I love reading about the typical list of wedding concerns, flowers, suits, bm dresses, wedding gowns etc it gets very blah for me after a while.

I guess I love to read more about the different things. What things you do that are totally you & your fiance. Or some way of honoring your heritage. For example the Legos thread, I LOVED that! It’s something completely the couple and not cookie cutter.

Budgets & Negotiations while wedding planning. Not enough Bees talk about this. Money does not fall from the sky. We don’t all have parents footing the whole bill. Most brides I would hope negotiate everything and not just accept the initial quote. And I’m sure lots of brides do not. If there was more of a presence on the blog maybe some girls will realize it’s completely OK to do this!

Anyway, this is the perspective of someone who is already married!

*this is just a general comment on Bee blogging, not directed towards any one poster! 🙂

Post # 5
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342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Perhaps a post on negotiations with caterers/vendors?  I think people are really curious as to what is or isn’t reasonable to ask for and why.  I know some of the current and past bees are event planners in real life and could shed some light here.

Post # 6
Bee
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

Is it bad that I want someone to write a post about negotiation? I am at the point where we need to start booking vendors for the at home reception and it would be super helpful.

Post # 7
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@AprilBride10: @meerkat:

Um. I think it’s safe to say more Bees need to blog about negotiating!Or maybe not enough Bees do because they are not comfortable with it either?

For me at least I negotiated everything during wedding planning! Either that or I would spend an extra week or two searching online for a cheaper price.
Most times if vendors aren’t willing knock something off they will throw something in.

Post # 8
Member
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

Can I play?  I’m not planning anymore, but I use to always love the posts that some people did on their organizational tricks.  What does your binder/box/excel sheets look like and what are the things your keeping tossing.  Then as you progress, when do you know you’re allowed to throw away something versus keep it b/c it might come in handy.

Post # 9
Member
2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

What a great idea for a post, O! I look forward to hearing everyone’s feedback!

Post # 10
Bee
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I want to second @hotwings, I love to hear about organization. Also, how you spend your time. (How long did a project take? When do you make your wedding phone calls? Do you have apps on your phone, or online programs you use to manage things? Stuff like that.) And how do you choose what to delegate, if anything? I know a lot of brides have trouble letting go of some parts of the planning, trying to do it all themselves. Others have a fiance who helps a lot, and others have a great mom, Mother-In-Law, sister, Maid/Matron of Honor, or a hired planner. This is very interesting to me as a compulsive planner of ALL THINGS.

Post # 11
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Another one that I thought of as well is signing contracts!!!!

No one ever hardly mentions it but it’s important to get a signed contract!!!

So many girls on here get back into a corner wonder if they get this or that in their package. If they had a contract they would have a point of reference!

Post # 12
Member
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would love to see something modern and upscale on a pauper budget. Everything seems to be vintage urban outfitters backyard themes.

What about trading skills, like I make your cake and you make my invites.

Where to find the best deal for things. There are a lot of girls who just can’t DIY and need to buy everything on the cheap.

Etiquette. I always see the posts where brides are fighting etiquette, but I would love to see a post that isn’t do what you want but rather do what is right. Plus, the difference between etiquette and tradition.

Post # 13
Member
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’d like to see more posts from Bees who are planning a wedding in a city they don’t live in, discussing the logistics and giving tips about that.

Post # 14
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Budgets.  And a lot of my fave posts are personal ones about issues surrounding weddings and relationships, because they are often relatable/bring you down to earth!  But I know these ones sort of come up as the bees go through issues and with comfort levels.  They’re always appreciated, Bees!

Post # 15
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2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Gerbera:

I agree too many girls don’t get signed contracts. Our limo company told me “We don’t require contracts,” when I asked about one and I was like, “…I do.”

I’d like to see negotiating brought up more too because I DO NOT DO IT. Like, I’m too worried about being seen as pushy or rude or offending the vendor, so I have not negotiated one dime of my budget. If a vendor gives me a price that’s too high, I just thank them for their help and keep searching. I’m not a shy person in general, but when it comes to dickering over money, I definitely am.

Post # 16
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@hotwings: you did a post that was one of my favorites – it was how to look good in pictures and it was all about triangles. I remembered this on my wedding day and can see the triangles in the pictures that are the best!

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