(Closed) Planning Wedding around Deployment

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: When should I have a ceremony?
    Have small civil ceremony and leave it at that : (2 votes)
    12 %
    Wait for actual ceremony after deployment : (3 votes)
    18 %
    Go ahead and do both : (12 votes)
    71 %
  • Post # 3
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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Nope, not weird, very common among military couples. I think it would work out great. You just have to keep in mind that you’ll be doing most of the planning, any site visits, tastings, all on your own– as long as that’s ok with you (or you have good friends who will help you out), then planning while he’s deployed is definitely a good way to keep busy.

     

    Post # 4
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    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Oops, I voted on the wrong one.  I think civil ceremony and then wedding celebration once he’s home.

    I understand the challenges of planning during a deployment- you are in my thoughts!

    Post # 5
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    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Have the civil first then ceremony when he is back. I was an army girl while myan was deployed and u get the short end of the stick, u def wanna be a wife. U will get more info from the unit. Also make sure u leave time for things to get to normal after he gets back so don’t set the date close to his return.

    Post # 6
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    stupid question here but people are still deploying?  i thought Obama said they were coming home (im not amercian btw)

    i say do both – my friend is married to a marine and she got more info and access to paperwork/timelines/medical etc as a spouse than a gf

    Post # 7
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    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Yeah this whole end of war is crock ppl still deploy.

    Post # 8
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    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    @eloping:  Iraq is “over” but not Afghanistan.  Troops are still deploying there daily.  Plus there are US military bases around the world in non-combat zones.

    Post # 9
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    574 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @eloping:  People deploy all the time, war or peace.  There is always a job to be done, and the military doesn’t always just fight the war.  More often than not, they are used to prevent a war.

    OP, I would wait to plan on anything until he’s home again.  Things ALWAYS change, and return dates are known to be pushed up/back/all over the place.  I think your best bet is to either do both all at once beforehand, or plan something during a time you know he’ll be home after the deployment.

    I think either way your decision to get legally married beforehand is really smart.  It’s not for everyone, but if that’s what your plan is, I think you’ll be really happy with your decision!!

    Post # 11
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    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I agree with subbywife11, I am glad you are getting the legal paperwork stuff done ahead of time. It is what we did too. Only we got married while he was on leave from a deployment and then he left again two days later.

    If you want a wedding then by all means plan a wedding for when he returns I don’t see anything wrong with this at all. Depending on your famlies it might be best to tell your parents and important people ahead of time so they don’t think you are keeping secrets from them or anything. I was afraid that people would be angry and not willing to attend the wedding but most of my family understood, even my ultra traditional grandmother understood and was fine with it.

    If you are planning for a big wedding shindig make sure you plan accordingly and allow plenty of time for things to change. I don’t start believing home dates until after the 3rd or 4th time they get extended sometimes. Nothing is official until his boots hit the ground.

    Post # 13
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    40 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @jrgarrett42:  O wow, you actually just comented on my post  but actually i started off with the exact same thing. Its quite funny tht you stated that your Fiance in being deployed for nine months and so is mine and I looked at your location and its like a 40 min drive from where my Fiance is located but any who we also went  through the same thing but i didnt want to have a wedding after the fact because i felt like we would be doing it for everyoone else if we were already married before he left for deployment and plus I wanted to have a ceremony just in case there could possibly be anything that happen, God forbid it does but I wanted to atleast have something small for us. Plus my Fiance figured with more money to spend the more damage I would do if we waited until he came back from ployment

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