Post # 1
I don’t even know where to start….
FI was raised Catholic in the Midwest but has not attended in a while. I was raised in VA with very little religion at all, but spent my early adulthood years attending church regularly. I have decided that I’d like to explore the Catholic faith, and possibly become a member of the church. Not only for myself but also for any future children we might have. It’s very important to FI (and therefore important to me) that we be married in the Catholic Church, as his previous marriage was not recognized (City Hall). It’s really important to me that we share the same beliefs and raise a family with a solid religious foundation.
We live in TX. We want to be married in VA. Neither of us have any connection to churches in VA. I’ve already contacted a church here and am looking forward to attending regularly (starting next week….we recently just got settled here) and doing the RCIA/pre-marital…all that.
My question for the hive: is it going to be a huge issue to find a church that will marry us in VA if we are just members of a parish here? What should I be prepared for?
Pretty much any type of advice would help. I’m nervous about planning this wedding from another state as it is. Thanks in advance.
Post # 2
I’m not sure. my FI and I are going through wedding prep right now and I know one person had to go through all the rites. I would call the prospective church and ask?
Post # 3
Do you have a location in Virginia you wish to get married? Do you have any family or friends who belong to a Catholic Church? I was married in a church out of state, but it was the one I grew up in and my parents are members so slightly different situation.
Your best bet is going to be to call a the church in the area in which you want to get married (protip: talk to the priest, not the church lady). *Usually* churches require you to be a member, but since you are from out of town, I’m sure if you explain your situation you will be able to find one (though you may have to pay a higher fee since you are not a member). Good luck!
Post # 4
dgplmr86: Thank you, I guess I should just call a few churches in the area we’re looking at, as we will not be able to even book a venue/set a date until we visit around Christmas.
RunsWithBears: I only know the relative area we’d like to have the ceremony and reception. My family is not Catholic but we have a few contacts I may look into asking for some help. I guess the answer here is to call a few churches in that area, explain the situation, and see where it goes. I’m expecting having to pay more since we won’t be members, but that’s okay.
Thank you, I’m just very confused with being so far away and new to it. I don’t want to be hit with a huge roadblock without kind of being prepared. I wish FI was more help but he is definitely in the “I’m Catholic, we just start going to church here and they’ll help us” mode. I don’t like that mentality!
I’m also starting to find very conflicting answers on different web searches. Just wanted some perspective.
Post # 5
My fiance is Catholic and we found two Catholic churches in our area that would allow us to get married there even though we are not members. We are not even part of the local diocese. They would have even allowed us to use their Priest if we had wanted, but are instead bringing in his hometown Priest from another diocese, which just requires some extra paperwork.
The fee is a little more than it is for members of the parish and members of the diocese, which is the only downside.
Post # 6
reesescup: This eases my mind a little, thank you!