Post # 1
So Fiance have been engaged since Oct. and are planning the date for May ’13 or ’14. This really depends on when Fiance can get a stable job with good insurance and such (the job market for recent college grads in my area is horrible). We are taking advantage of the long engagement to plan at our leisure. Right now, we are looking around to get the basics planned out but not booking, just getting the prices estimated and mentally decorating and such (colors, decor, ect).
This is my problem. I’m going to go to look at dresses and accessories (to look at prices…. yea… only for that ) this weekend. I have already “indulged” once and have my name and “date” registered at David’s Bridal. How do I tell them 1. I’m not looking to buy in the near future, just to try dresses to see what I like and to estimate prices and 2. get around the fact that my name has already been registered for a date that I can’t even remember? It’s already akward enough to look at rings without buying and dresses are worse! I feel like I am not taken seriously when I’m “just looking” at rings and dresses. Fiance was even referred to as “my boyfriend” last time at DB! How do you “just look” and get past the pressure to buy?
Post # 3
I went to DB and bought my dress before we had a date set. The date I gave them isn’t right but who cares?
there’s no law against looking at wedding stuff without a set date. Of course to really make plans (venue, photog, etc) you’ll need to set a date.
Post # 4
My question is mainly how do you get past the akwardness that always comes when we mention we are just looking. It seems that everywhere we go the atmoshpere instantly changes.
And we aren’t booking or buying right now, just estimating prices 🙂 Our venue is a local park and cabin that is about 100$ to book for a day since it is nearly always deserted, so no pressure to book just yet lol
Post # 5
I feel awkward doing this even while I am engaged! I was killing time in a mall during a flight layover and i thought I might as well wander into a jewelry store and check out wedding bands. So awkward! Despite the fact that I had an engagement ring already on my finger, I felt really weird about it!
I’m driving to another city tomorrow to check out wedding dresses, since they have one that I want to see in stock that nobody has here in my own city. For the first appointment I’m going alone, and then the second appointment my friend is coming along. I was super excited to go to the first one alone and just have my own opinion to guide me but I’m getting nervous now!
Post # 6
I started planning with no date so I just gave them our 3 options, two in June and one in October. I think it’s good to have a vauge idea of when you want to get married so as to get pricing for that time of year. I advise make up some dates to give them. I remember feeling weird and insecure about it too for that first couple of weeks. We booked our photographer asap and changed our date on him like 3 times:)
Post # 7
It’s easy. We did the same thing. What I did was having a “fake” wedding date like 6 months – 12 months before so it make more sense to “look” and the vendor is more likely to entertain you.
Do note though, price usually go up not down for the vendor stuff if you decide to do it in 14 not 13.
When I signed up for DB, I just changed my date to 2011 and if they really are pushy AFTERWARDS, just told them due to circumstances, you guys decided to postpone to 2013 instead of end of 2012, something like that.
That’s how I get all the quote for venue and stuff to get a better idea on my budget. Fiance and I had no clue how much money we needed to save and how much each vendor cost. Otherwise some people will tell you you are too early to look for stuff and won’t even give you a quote.
Hope this helps 🙂
Post # 8
@london: don’t tell them you are looking. Should act like you are seriously shopping around for vendor, otherwise they might not entertain you at all.
Just at the end of the visit, tell the vendor you gotta go home and discuss this with your Fiance and will contact them if any more questions. 🙂
Post # 9
@lamkky: Agreed on this one.
Watch out I went out just shopping with my mom to get a better idea and ended up buying my dress over a year and half before the wedding. It fit absolutely perfectly like not even needing a hem and now it needs a lot of alterations.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
just tell them you’re planning on May 2013- you can always “change” the date later.
You might surprise yourself- I bought the 12th dress I tried on! 🙂
Post # 11
So I did go looking at dresses and rings yesterday. When I first said May ’13, I did feel the consultant took us a little less seriously until I started telling her our plans and colors and such. She did warn us not to buy just yet (which is good, I don’t like it when they try to push sales) by saying that this early you size and styles can change. We didn’t buy, but I have a better idea of what dress styles look good and which ones do not. I do realize that prices will go up later but we have an idea of the price range. All in all the trip was successful 🙂 When I go “seriously” dress shopping, even though the designs and fashions will change I won’t have to waste my time on silhouettes, necklines, and colors that do not flatter me well.