(Closed) Planning without a date?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
5075 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I went to DB and bought my dress before we had a date set.  The date I gave them isn’t right but who cares? 

there’s no law against looking at wedding stuff without a set date.  Of course to really make plans (venue, photog, etc) you’ll need to set a date.  


Post # 5
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I feel awkward doing this even while I am engaged! I was killing time in a mall during a flight layover and i thought I might as well wander into a jewelry store and check out wedding bands. So awkward! Despite the fact that I had an engagement ring already on my finger, I felt really weird about it!

I’m driving to another city tomorrow to check out wedding dresses, since they have one that I want to see in stock that nobody has here in my own city. For the first appointment I’m going alone, and then the second appointment my friend is coming along. I was super excited to go to the first one alone and just have my own opinion to guide me but I’m getting nervous now!

Post # 6
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I started planning with no date so I just gave them our 3 options, two in June and one in October. I think it’s good to have a vauge idea of when you want to get married so as to get pricing for that time of year. I advise make up some dates to give them. I remember feeling weird and insecure about it too for that first couple of weeks. We booked our photographer asap and changed our date on him like 3 times:)

Post # 7
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s easy.  We did the same thing.  What I did was having a “fake” wedding date like 6 months – 12 months before so it make more sense to “look” and the vendor is more likely to entertain you.

Do note though, price usually go up not down for the vendor stuff if you decide to do it in 14 not 13. 

When I signed up for DB, I just changed my date to 2011 and if they really are pushy AFTERWARDS, just told them due to circumstances, you guys decided to postpone to 2013 instead of end of 2012, something like that.

That’s how I get all the quote for venue and stuff to get a better idea on my budget.  Fiance and I had no clue how much money we needed to save and how much each vendor cost.  Otherwise some people will tell you you are too early to look for stuff and won’t even give you a quote. 

Hope this helps πŸ™‚

Post # 8
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@london:  don’t tell them you are looking.  Should act like you are seriously shopping around for vendor, otherwise they might not entertain you at all. 

Just at the end of the visit, tell the vendor you gotta go home and discuss this with your Fiance and will contact them if any more questions.  πŸ™‚

Post # 9
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@lamkky:  Agreed on this one.


Watch out I went out just shopping with my mom to get a better idea and ended up buying my dress over a year and half before the wedding. It fit absolutely perfectly like not even needing a hem and now it needs a lot of alterations.

Post # 10
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

just tell them you’re planning on May 2013- you can always “change” the date later. 

You might surprise yourself- I bought the 12th dress I tried on! πŸ™‚

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