(Closed) Planning your wedding all alone – how did you do it?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
272 posts
Helper bee

Is it in the budget for a wedding planner?

on the bright side planning a wedding alone is awesome. It’s all your choice and you don’t have to create a watered down hybrid version of what you want. 

select a vision or theme. Romantic? Rustic? garden? Beach? Then decide how big? I recommend small if price is a issue. Then the big stuff venue food photog then add the little details after.

its fun.

Post # 4
6299 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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ninakins:  Firstly, it’s never too late for a wedding planner. While most stuff is done and you might not need a full planner….most offer day of coordination services. It’s the best gift a bride can give herself. That is the person who will make sure all your setup gets done and everything runs smoothly. 

As for the flowers and decor…speaking as a wedding vendor if you’re on the fence sometimes the best thing to do is give your florist the theme/colors and just let them do their thing! 

Post # 5
2163 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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ninakins:  step back. Take a deep breath. Relax. And then get back up on your feet and pull yourself through the mud. There is a finish line. It is ahead, but you need to push yourself to get there. You can do it bee! I would look into hiring a day of coordinator.

Post # 6
2156 posts
Buzzing bee

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ninakins:  you should not be planning this alone. just because Fiance doesn’t speak the language and can’t directly talk to vendors doesn’t mean she’s incapable of helping at all. you mentioned the seating chart – that’s something you should do together, and doesn’t require talking to any vedors to do. she can also help you pick out your venue, photographer, etc. In fact, it seems like the only thing she CAN’T do is actually call or email the vendors with questions – but she can certainly help you create a list of questions to ask the vendors, and you can then evaluate those answers together. If you’re planning this wedding alone, that’s by choice (either yours or hers).

It’s not your sisters’ wedding. Even if they said they wanted to help, they’re not, and so too bad. That doesn’t give your Fiance a free pass to not help. Clearly, the sisters aren’t helping, so you need to get your Fiance on board instead.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 4 months ago by ilovesophia.
Post # 7
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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ninakins:  I agree it’s not too late for a planner. In fact a lot of planners have various packages tailored to length of time and level of service. I used mine for full service, from day 1, but I had a friend who used her for just the 60 days leading up to the event and to facilitate the day of, so it was only for exactly all of those details that need “ironing out.” Even for me though, the logistics and details day of were the biggest help for me, much more so than the prior months of service.

Check out wedding planner websites, many break down their different offerings 

If it’s stressing you out this much I’d hire one and not look back. Problem solved.

Post # 8
2125 posts
Buzzing bee

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ninakins:  My DH and I planned our wedding along, and the key was organization. I started by creating a list of things that needed to get done, and then I scheduled them out. This is what I would do during month 1, month 2, month 3, etc. I know you’re getting to the end now – this should make the process easier! Make a list of all the things that need to be finished/decisions that need to be made. Assign some to yourself and some to your fiance. Then schedule them. I’m going to make these three decisions today and check them off the list. I’m going to make these three decisions/compelete these three tasks tomorrow (or next week, or whatever). After you’ve completed the tasks, RELAX! The key to not burning out is this: once you’ve accomplished what you set out to do that day, stop thinking about it! Go do something fun with your fiance and enjoy being engaged! Pick up the planning again on the next scheduled day. And good luck! 

Post # 10
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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ninakins:  I noticed from another thread that you are from my country. Yeah, day of coordinators are nonexistent here, and usually the bridal party helps with the setup and coordinating, at least in my circles.

Do you have access to your venue the night before? You could decorate then. Or do you know any highschoolers you could hire, like any friends of a relative’s kid? Maybe your caterer could arrange something?

As for the decisions etc, like any tedious and boring task st work, you just have to do them. But unlike work, you can do them with the help of wine! 😄 So make a to do list, open a bottle and start crossing things off. I promise you it will be easier and quicker than you think once you start. Of course waiting to hear from vendors is annoying.

Of the things you don’t care about, just choose the first cheap option that comes to mind. I suggest white paper napkins, white goes with everything, they’re cheap, and you can buy them anywhere. Seating plan, maybe just assign people to tables and let them decide themselves the exact seating.

Do your sisters usually leave things for the last minute? TBH, if I was them, I would probably get my dress hemmed in late July/early August… I mean, when I got married, I got the sleeves of my wedding dress altered and bought my wedding band the week of my wedding.

Don’t worry about guiding your guests, if you have given them the proper addresses of your venues, they are able to find them.

Good luck, you can do it!

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