Post # 1
My mom wants to use plastic plates!!!! She’s dead to me! No i’m totally kidding about her being dead to me, but plastic plates seem soooooo TACKY to me. She said if i use glass someone will have to wash them buuuut to be honest I don’t care. I honestly haven’t asked my BMs to do much so after the wedding we can have a dish party and i’ll supply the booze. The groomsmen can help too but my mom feels like that’s too much to ask. Most brides have their BMs do tons and mine literally don’t do anything (not in a bad way but me and Fiance do everything together). Me and my fiance picked out my dresses alone and my sisters (MOHs) are making all the DIY stuff. Soooo they can pull dish duty, right?
Is plastic ok for a wedding, bees? and am I asking too much by having them wash dishes?
Post # 3
I think plastic is “ok” for a wedding. It depends on your wedding theme/style. If you’re going for a black-tie affair, I wouldn’t use plastic. Also, asking your Bridesmaid or Best Man to do dishes is a reasonable request as long as the wedding is really small.
One of my friends had a wedding for 120 people and had to do the dishes. It took 15 people all morning and afternoon to do the dishes. It was a whole event the next day. Do you have that many bridesmaids and the space to do that many dishes?
Post # 4
How many people are invited to your wedding? In my circle, bridesmaids are not expected to do much in terms of wedding preparations and certainly not cleanup, but if it’s common to do so in your circle of friends, then maybe it’s not a big deal.
We’re having a backyard wedding and logistically, using real plates and silverware would have been too much of a hassle, and I absolutely would not be okay with doing dishes for around 175 people the day after, nor with family members/ bridal party doing it. If it’s tacky, so be it. I feel more comfortable with using disposables than with asking friends and family to do so much work after the wedding. Keep in mind that while you might have, say, 6 of you on dish duty, there’s really only 2-3 people that can actually do that work unless you have access to multiple sinks.
We’re going the eco disposables route, and our plates and cutlery look nicer than typical disposables.
Post # 5
I would hire someone to do it.
Post # 6
In my honest opinion, no, they cannot pull dish duty. I would not ask my girls to do dishes. I wouldn’t ask my family either. They have really nice plastic dishes out there.
I just attended a wedding and the bride had the grooms mom and family washing dishes. It took them over 4 hours and they only had about 40 guests. Guess what? The family missed out on some of reception and the after party. It’s something she’s still resented for.
It’s not like you can leave a whole bunch of dishes to wash the next day. It would be 10x harder as everything is dried on, crusty, etc. And who’s really going to want to do that?
My advice is to go with plastic.
Post # 7
I would just hire someone or use plastic. I think it would be a lot to ask your BMs to help you wash a bunch of dirty, day-old dishes.
Post # 8
They are doing some great things with plastic nowadays! Here is what a coworker is doing at her wedding…
I didn’t even realize it was plastic, I was thinking “man, those are going to be some heavy boxes of ceramic plates”!
She got everything from smartyhadaparty.com. I think it looks awesome.
Post # 9
Why is this in Emotional? Is it really that bad?
Post # 10
Definitely do NOT ask your bridal party to wash your dirty wedding dishes! The picture from the pp looks great maybe get plastic dishes like those? Otherwise hire someone to do your dirty work.
Post # 11
There’s some pretty heavy duty plastic stuff out there right now. 🙂
Post # 12
Plastic is fine. There are a lot of really nice-looking plastic dishes and utensils out there!
DO NOT ASK YOUR BRIDAL PARTY TO DO DISHES! No way. They don’t want to do that, it’s not their responsibility. That’s something I would expect to see on Bridezillas.
Not to mention, most venues want you out by a certain time, if you go over, they start charging high overtime fees.
Post # 13
If I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and the bride asked me to stay late and wash all the dishes, I would laugh. IMO that’s not an ok thing to ask of them.
Post # 14
Unless you’re having a really formal wedding, I think plastic is fine. Especially if you get the nice, hard, clear plastic. And that way you don’t have to deal with clean up. Would you do dishes that day at the venue? If so, that would make for a lot of work at the end of a long day and I’d probably be grumpy. Or where you planning to take them home and wash them the next day? If so, that would mean scraping and boxing and taking them home night of, then unpacking, cleaning (more difficult because they’re now old and stuck on gunk), drying and re packing which is a hell of a lot of work.
What we’re doing is a compromise. Plastic plates but real silverware. Silverware takes up less space, doesn’t break and is easier to wash. I also really hate using pastic silverware. So that’s worth it to me. Plates are not. But that’s me. Some brides will have plastic silverware and some will have china for everything and that’s both okay but just think it through.
Post # 15
We are not allowed to use glass at our hall and our caterer provides foam plates so that’s what we are going with. I would have loved glass but so far that’s the only thing I’ve had to compromise on so I’m ok. I wanted fancier plastic at least but my caterer said they don’t retain heat well and he’s seen guests drop their plates from them being to hot (we are having a buffet) What your guests eat on is such a small part of the reception I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 16
Do not ask your bridal party to do dishes.