Post # 1
I really like the idea of plated dinner. But Fiance likes the idea of buffet style. However, buffet style is really just everyone getting thier own food, 1 plate and that is it.
What is the easiest? I would assume plated dinner, but I am not sure. Advice brides, wives, and people who care ?
Post # 3
Plated, definitely. They’re your guests, and personally, I don’t feel they should have to get up and feed themselves. It’s more elegant to have a sit-down dinner in my opinion.
Post # 4
Plated or family style
I’m not a huge fan of buffets – the food gets cold, I hate balancing my plates while trying to walk across a slippery dance floor in my heels.
The poor folks at table 25 have to wait an hour to eat. ..
Post # 5
I much prefer plated dinners as I find them more elegant. With every buffet wedding I have been to, I have to wait for my table to be called like a grade school lunch room and stand there holding my plate while someone portions out my meal. Not exactly the feel I want for my wedding, but I am sure not every buffet is like this.
Post # 6
I think if you’ve got less than 60 guests, buffet’s a nice option because people can pick what they want. More than that, and the line process is so long that plated dinner’s the friendliest thing to do for your guests. My favorite by far, though, is family style, as people have choices, but don’t have to leave their seats.
Post # 7
Definately plated or family style. I hate waiting in lines at a buffet.
Post # 8
I prefer buffets, since it lets me pick what I’m going to be eating.
Post # 9
I’ve only ever been to buffet-style weddings. I don’t mind them at all. Though they’re definitely easier if you have a smaller guest list.
Post # 10
I had a very small wedding. We had a buffet, and it worked well. When I’m a guest a huge weddings and I have to stand in line for 20 minutes at a buffet I’m not so happy about it, but I don’t mind if the crowd is under 100 or so and the line moves quickly (as long as there’s enough food for us all!)
Generally it’s more formal to have a plated meal delivered to guests at the tables. It’s also easier for the caterer to figure out how much food they need.
Is your FI’s buffet idea cost related? If so, be sure to price both options, sometimes a plated dinner is a LESS expensive option. If it’s due to the variety, a family style dinner service might please you both. If he just likes to stand in lines and help himself to 3 servings of mashed potatoes at a time though I don’t have any helpful advice! 😉
Post # 11
For weddings specifically, I prefer plated.
Pros for plated:
– No worries about portion sizes/quantities. Everyone gets one of each.
– No worries about spills/dropped food (generally speaking).
– No lines.
– Generally more economical bc your caterer knows to only buy x amount of food whereas with buffet, they have to buy extra in case one item is super popular.
– Pretty photos. Food always look better when the caterer plates it vs when your guests slop it onto their plates.
– People don’t have to worry about looking like a glutton bc they got up for plate #3.
– Everyone can eat basically at the same time.
– Better for families/elderly/disabled. Dad doesn’t have to make 3 trips or balance four plates on one arm while Mom watches the kids at the table. Grandma doesn’t have to balance her plate while shuffling back to the table.
Post # 12
we are doing a buffet style. i find you get more options and can have multiple servings if you like.
Post # 13
@UmbrellaMoon: Its about a $3 per person difference, but we get better food. And I think if he wants to give himself 3 servings of everything, then we can go to Golden Corral or something the next day lol.
Also, I am leaning more towards the plated dinner, because at my parents wedding, my impatient family ate all the food before the bride and groom got there. My mom or dad did not get any of thier food. it really sucked for them, and my mom regrets it to this day.
Post # 14
i prefer plated over buffet simply b/c i find that it’s easier for your guests to be served as opposed to them serving themselves. females caring their plates in high heels across a slippery floor, not always good. also, more room for splatters and mishaps with a buffet. yikes, not on the dress.
Post # 15
Personally, I like being able to choose what food I want or don’t want. If you coordinate it well, you can feed 200 people in 20 minutes with a buffet (like I did!).
Post # 16
@brandybelle: If you have a good caterer, they can set aside the food for you. We did plated but had a dessert buffet and a cocktail hour with tray-passed hors d’oeuvres. For both, our caterer had a plate with a full assortment set aside for us and brought it out to us when they saw us settling down. They also had a server dedicated to us the entire time and we had a DOC too. I would be sad too if my guests ate everything before me!