Post # 1
Mr. H and I are getting more and more into wedding planning. We’re weighing our food options, and I’m curious what your opinion would be as a guest: would you rather have a buffet, a seated/plated meal, or other (and why)? I’d always assumed that my wedding would have a seated dinner–everyone eats, no lines, less food wasted, and it’s an actual meal. But after asking friends, most seem to prefer the variety (and ability for seconds) that a buffet offers. So, your thoughts please??
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida
MrsHalpert: It may be a regional thing. I know in the south almost every wedding i’ve been to is a buffet where as in the north it’s more plates or family style. I prefer a buffet because I eat smaller portions and hate wasting food.
Post # 3
MrsHalpert: Although I like a buffet for the fact that I can choose what and how much, I eat, a plated meal would be my first choice.
The downside of a buffet is being in that last group who are only just filling their plates when others are finished eating.
I have also been to too many buffets that simply ran out of food- at least the good stuff. It’s realy annoying filling up on vegetables while listening to others rave about the seafood or roast beef. This can be solved by asking the venue to provide servers so the pigs in the crowd don’t overfil their plates and end up leaving half of it uneaten.
Post # 4
I remember a buffet, where we were the last table to get in line. We were lucky if we got a few spoonfuls each, and had to hope that there were desserts for us, instead. On the other hand, when my cousin’s daughter was married last summer, they had loads of food left – so you never know.
Post # 5
MrsHalpert: I live buffets if they are done well, but I rarely see them done well. At one wedding this summer there was only one side of the buffet open, so Darling Husband had to wait over an hour for food. By then it was cold. You also have the awkward dynamic of carrying your food in heels.
At the second wedding there was no set meal time, just a buffet set up. There were no lines, but also no one to eat with.
I really like plated food. It is much quicker to serve and you have people to eat with. Your food is hot and yyou have a great flow of the evening. Unless it is a backyard bbq, go with plated.
Post # 6
I do not like buffets at all at weddings, it’s awful as each table waits one by one and then half the food is gone by the time it’s your turn… And then some people are already finished eating abd bored. Totally awkward.
We can’t afford completely plated meals and I also dislike alternate drop (you never get what you want) so we are going with table buffets, also known as family style. They serve big platters of the food (still with different options, sides etc) to each table so guests can then pick what they want without having to get up
Post # 7
I like buffets better as a guest. I feel with plated meals you get a small portion of everything when I’d much rather have a plate full of things I will eat and none of the stuff I won’t eat. I’ve only been to one wedding with plated (out of 20+ weddings) and I feel it took longer than a buffet, never had a bad experience with a buffet though.
Post # 8
I much prefer a sit down dinner. I can’t stand being in a buffet when you’re still lined up for food in high heels, the head table is finished, and was wishing you were too.
By the time I get my food, I’m starving, and my feet are killing me….LOL
Post # 9
Plated…please don’t make me work for my food.
Post # 10
I prefer buffets… there is nothing worse then sitting waiting forever for them to realize they may have missed a table or two. :/
Post # 11
Since I’m a vegetarian, I sometimes prefer buffets simply because it gives me more options. But I’ve never had issues with a plated dinner either.. it’s just that 99% of the time it’s pasta.
We had a taco cart at our wedding, which I think is a good mix of both. It only took a few minutes for each table to get their food, and they were able to go back for seconds or thirds!
Post # 12
We did a buffet for our wedding, had both sides open, and had “servers” who refilled the food. We actually ended up having too much food. We had our DJ call out random table numbers (in no order) After about 30 minutes, all guests were seated and eating. and as a guest I actually prefer to get to pick what I want to eat.
It may be a southern thing, but I’ve only been to one wedding that had a plated meal. It looked nice, but the food was cold by the time they started serving and it didn’t taste that great either. I’m glad I filled up on the snacks provided during cocktail hour.
Post # 13
Every plated meal I’ve been served at a wedding has either been cold, the wrong meal, or full of food I don’t want to eat. At least with a buffet, I can decide what I want and eat as much as I want. We had a buffet at our wedding and guests raved about the food and good service.
Post # 14
I LOVE buffets!!! Being said, that’s how we do allof our family meals too. (Thanksgiving, Christmas,ect) i know it is all about the brides vision and i should just be grateful to have food but i cant help feeling this way. I’m sorry but if your going to feed me then please make it something I like. A lot of times that is easier dome with a buffet. Its a lot more cost effective too (generally speaking). I once read that a couple dismissed each table by going over and talking to them in leau of receiving line. Course, you’d miss out on eatin then.
Post # 15
I lIke buffets a lot more, but maybe that’s because the plated ones I’ve been to weren’t all that great.
In theory plated means guests eat at the same time. In practice that is a lie unless the venue has a waiter for every table. Also, plated meals always came lukewarm instead if straight from the tray warm.