Post # 1
We are only serving one meal so everyone will be getting the same thing. Now to decide if we want to do it buffet style or plated? What are some of the pro’s and con’s of each? Plated is nice because you get waited on, but with a buffet I feel like guests feel more free to move around. What do you all think?
Post # 5
We are doing buffet (more like food stations) because some people (not to name them: my dad who is footing the whole bill and his family in general) HATE waiting. Like, really hate it. I have seen them going to the kitchen in restaurants to harass the waiters they thought were too slow… All the plated dinners I have been to have this longer or shorter awkward moment when people have to wait to get their dish when the rest of the room is basically already done, and has to wait some more for the next dish to come out, and we are trying to avoid that.
Besides, we are going to have lots of older people or parents with young children who might want to leave early and wouldn’t eat some of the dinner.
And the main reason: I love me some buffet: the different dishes to pick from, a lit bit of this, a little bit of that… You don’t have that much choices in a plated dinner, and not everybody might enjoy your favorite starters or have food allergies you are not aware of. Buffet allows you to have more vegetarian dishes, gluten-free, nuts-free dishes people can pick and chose from according to their tastes/needs.
On the other hand, I really have to come out with a solution on how not to get things too messy with everybody running to the same station at the same time. We are trying to get each station pretty far away from the other ones, so hopefully people will get to the station closer to their table first and make their way around.
Post # 6
I prefer plated over buffet. If not executed efficiently, buffet lines can be a total pain in the ass for wedding guests. I’ve been to weddings where I’ve had to wait in line for upwards of a half hour just to get my food. By the time I finally got up there, most everything was cold. I’ve also been to weddings where either the guests were taking too much or the venue staff was dishing out too much because they ran out of food before everyone was served. Our table was one of the unlucky ones so we pretty much just ate bread and were able to each get a slice of ham (totally worth the $150 wedding check we gave them. NOT!). I’m also not really a fan of other people breathing on and pawing through the food I’m going to eat. We don’t go to buffets IRL so I’d definitely prefer to be given a plated meal at a wedding.
Post # 7
I personally prefer buffet and that is what I am having. I think it gives a chance for guests to pick and choose what they want or not on their plate
Post # 8
I actually love buffets (cause Im greedy) but always hate them at weddings. Maybe b/c the ones I went to were not well done. I have waited almost an hour after the first table got their food to eat and I have had people push me in line. I find that buffets take longer, idk.
I think we will have a dual plated dinner.
Post # 9
I don’t normally like buffets for any reason, so I voted against it. I rather have a plated dinner because buffet lines are just too long @ weddings.
Post # 10
We did a duet dinner with veggie option for our wedding. I hate buffets in real life and I just don’t think weddings should be buffeted.
Post # 11
There’s also the option for family-style, which we’re thinking of doing.
Post # 12
I like buffet better because I can choose how much of something I want. Sometimes I want a bugger salad or more greens. It also gives me a chance to get something else if I don’t like the beef.
With plated, you are kind of stuck with what’s on your plate. I think when done correctly, buffets can work out.
And to the people who hate waiting, you are going to wait either way. The servers can’t serve everyone at once. So chances are, you are still going to be waiting while another table is already eating.
Post # 13
@afelk1112: As the PP mentioned it depends on the venue and your wedding.
We are having a very formal wedding and were leaning towards plated however we had to seperate our guests into two rooms. In order to encourage mingling we chose buffet. Besides the buffet takes the worry out of pleasing everyone with the meal as they can pick and choose what they want and you don’t have to keep track of who ordered what.
Post # 14
I depends. I don’t mind waiting in line.
I have been to a wedding were there was only the choice of that meal and all we did was eat. There was a SET eating time and it was like cattle being hurded. (like 200 people going to eat at once)
At my wedding you can eat whenever you want, there are different options for the food. It is not like cattle being hurded because some people will be dancing, drinking, talking while some eat. So not everyone does the same thing at the same time.
I’ve never been to a plated dinner wedding, so I don’t know what that’s like.
Post # 14
I prefer plated.
I dislike being dressed up at someone’s wedding, in heels, hair and makeup done, and having to stagger around, weave through tables and wait in line with a plate in one hand, and my clutch tucked under my arm.
Post # 15
We did buffet in the long run it was cheaper and there was no real wait time. The servers were on top of letting each table know when to go to the buffet
Post # 16
I don’t prefer one over the other but I think you should go with buffet, especially since you’re only having one option. Some people don’t eat certain things and food could go to waste and some guests might be hungry because they don’t eat what was served to them. If you have a buffet you can allow your guests to create their meal. For instance if you have a vegetarian guest they could double up on the vegetables and omit the meat.
Post # 17
Completely agree with you. Those are the exact same reasons I prefer plated.
I think it’s really important to understand what your venue’s strengths are. Some places know how to do multiple buffet lines or dinner stations and are done well.
My venue is known for its white glove plated dinner service, it was something that was especially important to my Fiance so we’re doing a plated dinner.
If you opt for a buffet, just make sure you review how exactly it will be set up and what the flow of it will be beforehand.