Post # 1
Ok so I need some opinions here. I’m really torn on which to choose. At my venue, which is an historic inn, the buffet and plated dinner prices are similar so it’s not a cost thing. I like the presentation of plated, I think it makes the tables look a little nicer and the dinner be a little more structured….but I also like the idea of my guests having flexibility in what and when they eat and it not be so stuffy. The feel of the venue and the vibe of my event can go either way as in my reception isn’t too casual for plated and isn’t to formal for buffet so either work. Only thing is if we go over numbers a little, we will have an overflow table or two in an adjacet room in the house and I’m not sure if that separation would be better with plated or buffet. Which would you choose?
Post # 2
Plated. Having my meal served to me never ever feels stuffy.
I am not a fan of self serve and walking around with a plate of food at weddings.
Post # 3
Adhtarheel: If it were me i’d go plated for sure if there isn’t a real cost difference! Mainly because I hate the stress of a buffet.. I’d much rather someone bring my food to me at a wedding (people get crazy when they’re hungry lol) and I hear so many horror stories on here about people missing out on food when there’s a buffet!
I also think plated gives a nicer feel.. but that could be because plated is what i’m used to!
Are you happy with the food selections either way? that would probably sway my decision as well!
Post # 4
I agree with CurlyCue, I hate waiting in line and then carrying around my food at a wedding buffet. The only station that is ever worth it is the carving station. Everything else tends to get gluey and picked over in a buffet line for my taste.
Post # 5
Adhtarheel: Personally I prefer plated. I find buffets inherently unappetizing and, like PP, don’t like carting around a plate of food in my cocktail dress and heels.
I think the appeal of a buffet from the host’s point of view is that there’s no need to collect meal selections from guests!
Post # 6
wellllllll….I don’t mind a good buffet. You get to try a little bit of everything, go back for seconds, avoid the things you don’t like. For me, a buffet was much cheaper than a plated option, so that’s what we went with. To compromise, we’re having a seated salad course, so people have salad and bread to nibble on while they are waiting to get in the buffet line. With a buffet, we get to serve 3 entrees, have a plated salad and bread, a side dish and veggies. I loved our tasting and I think our guests will really enjoy our food. So if buffet makes sense for you, I say go for it!
Post # 7
I prefer buffet myself, I like having options since I’m not a big meat eater and have some food intolerances. I have starved at most plated dinners I have been to.
Post # 8
I have been at buffets that were stressful (ran out of popular items, not enough vegetarian stuff for my fiancé to eat a balanced meal) so I would do plated and have options for guests with dietary restrictions, so they don’t have to worry about getting enough to eat.
Post # 9
We’re in a similar situation, and doing a plated dinner. Gives the wedding a more elegant feel IMO. Buffets can get really chaotic, especially with a large number of guests.
Post # 10
Plated and make sure caterers are aware of any dietary requirements (vegetarian, celiac, etc) so that everyone gets enough food. I have seen lots of horror stories on here about some guests having lots of food, possibly even seconds, and other guests not even getting anything! Plus the lining up for ages for food would bug me as a guest.
Post # 11
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
Adhtarheel: We are in a similar position. We are having a brunch reception and we can offer either. The plated meals do offer some options that I am not sure guests will enjoy. While the buffet had things like plain ole grits, eggs, and bacon. I am leaning towards plated but FI is wanting the buffet. I will probably ask my moms opinion to help make the final decision. I think it also depends on the region, in the south buffets are very common. I did not know they were not so common in the north, until my cousin married a girl from Brooklyn.
Post # 12
I like buffets, since everyone hs the option to control how much they take and eat. With plated meals, I feel like I either waste a bunch of food or am left hungry (or both, if part of the plated food is something completely unappetizing).
That said, my circle must be really good at handling buffets. I can only think of a handful of times that buffets didn’t work (aka ran out of some type of food), and they were all work/club-related. All the weddings were perfectly fine.
Post # 13
I prefer buffet. Every plated meal I have had has been cold, and the last one served me 4 small, cubed potatoes with a small steak! I was still hungry! Buffet at least allows me to take more taters!
Post # 15
Adhtarheel: I really wanted a plated dinner.. But then I thought about the variety of of my guests.. One doesn’t eat fish, one doesn’t eat red met, a vegetarian, allergic to dairy requires gluten free… So in the end I went with a buffet so everyone would be fed and have a least a little variety. Hope this helps 🙂