(Closed) Plated vs buffet. *Rant*

posted 7 years ago in Food
Post # 17
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2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I keep hearing that buffets are supposed to be cheaper, but plated meals were the cheapest option at my venue…. weird!

Post # 18
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11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Mrs. Wallaby:  You can avoid the line by having your coordinator subtly let tables know one by one when it’s their turn, so your whole guest list isn’t waiting in one long line. You can choose food that isn’t too messy, so if something were spilled it wouldn’t be that big of a deal. (And honestly, I’ve never seen anyone trip at a buffet line. Just sayin’.) My experience with plated dinners is you get zero choice (whereas often with buffets you have some kind of choice/variety), the food gets cold by the time everyone gets their plate, and you end up sitting in your seat for a long time (vs. chatting with people over by the buffet).

Back to you, lady! I agree with this 100%. I have NEVER been to a wedding/buffet event where tables were NOT called up one by one. Never seen anyone trip or spill anything. The one plated event we went to, the food and service were awful. I ordered the vegetarian (because no one could tell me beforehand what the meal choices actually were), and the server told me that it was sauteed vegetables on rice. Okay, great…except that when I got it, it was tofu and mushrooms over rice. I really hate tofu and mushrooms, and the rice was horrid (and cold).

But I love buffets. If I show up to a wedding with a buffet and I don’t like the entree choices, I can fill my plate with other stuff. A plated dinner forces me to sit there with what I get.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MistySoda:  I’m with you, girl. You keep that logical, frugal hat on and stick to the plan. I agree with you 100% that his father offering to throw down some money shouldn’t be to just get more bells and whistles. 

Post # 20
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Mrs. Wallaby:  We are having BBQ too I’m sooo excited!!!! We’re doing NC and VA style because the fiance is from NC and likes that vinegar, and I’m from VA and I like that tomato lol. Sorry, jackin’ the thread…but I had to make a shout out.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I like buffets just fine because I like variety and being able to choose what I want to eat and how much.  I’ve also never been served cold food at a buffet!!  I don’t mind getting my own food at all…the only problem I have is remembering to leave my drink at the table if I’m going to get food otherwise I have nowhere to put it and have to try and remember not to lose it!

It depends on your guest count though…having 300 people go through one buffet line will just not work.  For smaller groups…I have no problem with them!

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@somethingaquamarine:  +1

If it’s important to your Fiance and Future Father-In-Law, you owe it to them to at least consider it, rather than making the decision solely on cost, especially if he’s offering the cash for it.  Personally, I hate buffets, so I’m on your FI’s side on this one.

Post # 23
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@JoolyBee:  BBQ is the best 🙂 I’ve never tried NC or VA BBQ but that’s awesome that you’re serving both – how often do you get to compare two BBQ styles side-by-side?! Our guests loved it, and we served it with a mashed potato bar. We got a lot of compliments on the food, I’m sure you will too!

@vorpalette:  Story of my life. Seriously, I love buffet weddings!

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Personally I prefer plated because it means I don’t have to get up during dinner, potential for long lines, seems more elegant (to me), etc. However, I don’t think there’s any issue with buffet. I agree with @fishbone that you need to work out how much buffet might actually save you. At the venue we’re probably going with, it’s the same food cost and they DO charge service because there are still staff involved. So for us, it would come out the same. Depending on how many kids you have and how much money his dad is offering, it might not be worth the fight

Post # 25
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Mrs. Wallaby:  Now I see your from Texas. I LOVE Texas BBQ. Yea, we didn’t want any riots, you know how folks get about their BBQ…

Post # 26
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I prefer buffet. It seems like with plated, you never get enough food, plus it’s always Hobson’s Choice. Which means that a given person may not like ANYTHING. If you do menu options in your RSVP, that’s one thing, but it tends to be a logistical nightmare, so few people do it.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Mrs. Wallaby:  +1

@vorpalette:  +1

we had a buffet too and everyone loved it. i get annoyed when people say it’s not classy.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Both my Fi and I agreed to go Buffet.  There’s way more options.  Especially for kids and picky eaters.  I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have a buffet.  Also, it’s pretty common to do one table at a time. And it never takes that long.  And for the old people? It’s all family! Are you telling me no one will volunteer to get them something to eat!

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think you & your Fiance need to get your parents and his dad in the room (or at least on a three-way phone call) to talk through the budget and get priorities settled.  If FI’s dad is chipping in, then he gets a say too.  

And try not to use your parents to gang up against your Fiance.  Not a good way to start wedding planning or a marriage!

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