Post # 1
i have heard so much about this but i want to put it back out there – what do you think…
i don’t want to do an eternity band because i know i’ll end up losing diamonds on the back and as it is, my engagement ring is already all scuffed up on the back. so i want to do diamonds 3/4 around the band (sorry i’m not down with the lingo) and found this perfect and simple wedding band at macy’s yesterday – oh, and PS with my macy’s card and one-day sale (that happens every month, haha), i can get the ring for ~$390. BUT my engagement ring is platinum and the band i’m looking at is white gold.
here it is with the engagement ring:
i figure because the diamonds will be what shows and not the metal, it might not be an issue? but i’m worried the e-ring might wear agains the white gold? i have no idea what to do – if i don’t get this ring i can get a similar one on bluenile.com but that one will be ~$900.
what do you all think?
Post # 3
I’ve done a lot of research on this because I have a plat e-ring and wanted a cost effective band. But I gotta say… don’t do it. Everything I read says that platinum will wear down and damage the white gold band, which might be an issue with a prong set band. In the end, I think you’ll be happier if you get a matching (metal) band.
Post # 4
I would buy the platinum band. My e-ring is platinum and we bought a platinum and diamond band to match because we were told the metals age differently. The platinum is a much deeper/richer color than the white gold. Whatever you choose I’m sure it will look great
Post # 5
I don’t recommend mixing metals. White gold naturally yellows with age, and sitting right next to your platinum band, it will be painfully obvious.
Actually can I put in a recommendation for a band like this? It has a slight bend so it can fit around the setting in your engagement ring.
Post # 6
The issue is not the “look” of the two rings together, but the difference in hardness of the metals. Gold is a very soft metal, while platinum is hard. The prongs of your e-ring will wear down your band.
Post # 7
Definitely go with the platinum band, if you already have a platinum e-ring.
Post # 8
The metals engineer says don’t mix metals!
Post # 9
@jenbrander: I have a platinum e-ring too and have been looking for a wedding band like the one shown in the pic you posted. Do you have a link for that? (I tried mine with straight bands, and don’t like the gap between rings, but haven’t been able to find a nice curved band in platinum.) Thanks so much!
Post # 10
Eh.. I have a platinum engagement ring and a white gold wedding band. You can’t tell a difference at all. The white gold will yellow over time but you just get it plated it the jeweler and it’s not problem. It took me a long time to find a wedding band I liked (I also wanted diamonds to totally cover my finger but not go all the way around). When I finally found something that worked for me.. it didn’t come in platinum.. and I had no interest in looking more so I went for it. I have had no issues with wear at all. If you go over to the most recent rings post you can see a pic of mine together.
Post # 11
My friend did that. She has a plat e-ring and got a semi etirnity White gold on over stock for $200! and you cant even tell!
Post # 12
i have a plat e-ring and a white gold w-ring. the jeweler said you can’t rell the difference and that its not worth the extra expense. plus with the diamonds, you won’t see much of the metal even if you could tell a difference. you should take your rings in for routine maintenance and cleaning anyway so they’ll keep looking as good as new.
mine is below, although i’m sure its a crappy pic.
Post # 13
ok thank you girls!
@jenbradner – i know – the setting he got for me has a small circle on the bottom of the band so it juts out a bit and makes for a gap in between the ring and band – but i want to wear the band alone too and i’m not sure if i want a curved one, so i might get my setting straightened out or just stick with a gap.
THANK YOU ALL!
Post # 14
@jadeblue: Here’s the link. This particular band was in white gold though.
@jacin10: As long as the two bands fit up against each other snugly, that’s all that matters! Also since some of the other posters have mentioned concerns about the platinum wearing away at the softer white gold, maybe you should have them soddered together to prevent rubbing.
Post # 15
Like others have commented, I would worry about the wear differences, apprearance-wise, so they might not look the same in a few months, much less years. Also, the platinum might scratch the softer white gold as well.
Post # 16
I’m currently having the same dilema…and am quickly running out of time to make a decision since my wedding band is going to have to be custom made to fit against my e-ring in order to avoid a gap. (My e-ring is similar to the one in the picture posted on this thread, and I’m looking for a band that would have either prong-set or pave diamonds along the front of my finger).
Right now, I’m leaning towards a white gold band to go with my platinum e-ring. We’re planning to get my ring made by a small, family-owned jeweler FI’s family has known for years. She’s told me that there’s no reason I need to go with platinum. She checked out my ring and said that because it was fairly easy for her to polish (a relatively low platinum mix?), the coloring between the metals shouldn’t be an issue. Also, since the rings will fit tightly together they won’t scratch. And as someone else mentioned, the only place any metal will be showing on the band is around the back of my finger anyway.
I will probably trust the jeweler in my situation – after all, she’s recommending the lower cost option, which makes me feel like she is being very candid and honest with me. All that said…I’m still torn – we sprung for platinum on the e-ring, so is it cheaping out to go with white gold? It’s interesting to see different perspectives on whether or not metals should be mixed – I’m hoping others who HAVE mixed will weigh in and let us know how it turned out for them!