Post # 1

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Blushing bee
A woman at the jewelry store told me that I need to get a platinum wedding band because that is what my engagement ring is. My fiance wanted my engagement ring to be really nice so he went with platinum without thinking about that I would wear it next to a wedding band… And now I am feeling like platinum bands are too expensive… any advice?
Post # 3

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Helper bee
You dont need to get a platinum band, and that woman is wrong for telling you so! whichever band you like the most, the only reason i can think of to get a patinum band is maybe to match the exact color, but white gold is just as good!
Post # 4

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Bee Keeper
No. Get whatever you like best. Probably yellow or rose gold would look nicer beside it than white gold because… this is just me personally, but I don’t like it when things look “almost but not quite the same,” which I assume white gold and platinum would.
By The Way in terms of price I thought gold cost more than platinum these days. Maybe not 14K though?
Post # 5

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Honey bee
I am not sure if this is true or not, but I have *heard* that you ought to get the same metal b/c if you don’t, then they will wear each other out. (eg, the harder metal will wear down the softer metal.)
Post # 6

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Honey bee
Yes, red rose is right. The platinum will wear down a gold band if you stack them. So to protect your wedding band. you would either need a gold spacer, so that it takes the damage, or you should get platinum.
Post # 7

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Blushing bee
@red_rose: Yeah, that is what she referred to b/c I guess platinum never loses weight (just like moves around or something) whereas gold will chip/wear off…
I am seriously contemplating to just moving my e ring to my right hand so I can get whatever band I want (b/c a plain band is like $400 with NO diamonds!)
Post # 8

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Sugar bee
@red_rose: This is what I was told too, but I think it takes a long time to happen.
White gold will “age” differently than platinum, so you will probably see a color difference between them.
ETA: You can find some really good deals on platinum bands on eBay. I know that probably sounds totally tacky, but I’ve picked up a couple nice bands on the cheap.
Post # 9

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Honey bee
It actully won’t take that long to notice the damage. I would say a year or 2 and the wedding band will be looking rough. The spacer is an easy fix though 😉 And less than $100 on etsy.
Post # 10

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Worker bee
My best friend works in a jewellers and said that if you wear a platinum ring with a white gold ring you will need to get the white gold rhodium plated more often as the platinum wears it away. I know this is true as one of my other friends has a white gold engagement ring and a platinum wedding band and she is taking it in to get plated every other month.
Post # 11

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Bee Keeper
Everyone is correct. But palladium is very similar to platinum, you may be able to go that route.
Post # 12

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Buzzing bee
My e-ring is 14k white gold, and my band is platinum. Side by side, you can’t tell the difference between them.
Post # 13

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Bumble Beekeeper
Personally I would just get a wedding ring in a matching colour… I can’t tell the difference between platinum and white gold just by looking, for example. If you’re worried about the hardness, why not just get a cheap silver ring and then get it dipped in platinum?
Post # 14

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Honey Beekeeper
Yes, I believe red rose is correct as well. I was in the same boat as the OP – DH (my then FI) bought me a beautiful platinum e-ring, and was really disappointed when we did the research on mixing metals! We did end up getting me a platinum wedding band, and I love both my rings to death! Hope it all works out well for you!
Post # 15

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Buzzing bee
White gold will be scratched by your e-ring but, like PP, I was going to suggest palladium. Check out Amazon- they have palladium and platinum rings. I got my plain band for $150 and the same thing was several hundred in the store.
Post # 16

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Bumble bee
Ooops I have a platinum e ring and will be getting a yellow gold wedding ring!!!
i wanted yellow gold with diamonds! I thought about the gold getting rough next to platinum but I figured, I wont be wearing them together daily anyway so it’d be fine and also I don’t really care.