(Closed) Playdates. Do you stay, or do you drop off?

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Do you always stay with your child during playdates?

    Yes. Because I feel the need to.

    Yes. Because I don't want to get "judged"

    No. There is no need as long as I know and am comfortable with the other parent/caregiver

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I remember going to tons of birthday parties and things as a kid and my mom never once stayed. I was indepdendent and there was never an issue. I think staying around would be weird for the parent and the child.

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @freshflowers:  I guess I would try to find out what the invitation meant. My daughter is only 11 months so of course I still stay now and chat to the other mum’s but I would definitely consider leaving her when she is older if I trust and know the other parents a little. The invite could maybe specify so the parents know if it includes them too? It would be a nice chance for a break to leave them I think! 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @wandering_gypsy:  Yes I agree with the wording difference you pointed out. Playdate kind of sounds like the mom’s might have coffee and hang out too – like it’s a date for the mom and baby.

    Post # 20
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    This is so strange to me. I don’t have kids, but as a kid playdates (did we even call them that? I thought it was just friends coming to hang out?) involved getting dropped off and mom leaving. Birthday parties were the same way. Once you were old enough that your brithday parties consisted of friends instead of all family (so, preschool age?) you got dropped off.

    My BFF has an 8 & 6 year old – and her biggest irritation is when parents try to stay for the birthday party. She plans activities for the kids, and they always have a theme, and she feels like she has to entertain the parents too….not to mention the extra food/drinks to feed the parents and the annoying ones who want to bring along all the siblings too. I’m the only “non mom” in our group, and I’m usually always there as the other adult to help out, and a couple of our good friends always stay to help out but having 20 extra parents hanging around is annoying. Thankfully all of our friends are pretty laid back, and none of them really stay…they’re totally cool to drop and run. 😉

     

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @freshflowers:  It depends on the parent hosting and whether they are okay with me just dropping the kid off.  In our area birthday parties are social events for the moms too so most stay around and socialize while the kids play.

    Post # 22
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I had two types of playdates when I was little (say under 6/school-age).

    One was what my mom called “playgroup.” We were friends with a few families that had kids around the same age, so the moms would get together and us kids would play together. Looking back, I think it was for the moms as much as us kids, so it made sense for them all to stay.

    The other was the basic inviting a friend over to our house or vice versa. Then, usually, one of us would get dropped off at the other’s house and the “visiting” mom would leave.

     

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