(Closed) Playing a controversial song at the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Music
  • poll: Is this song appropriate for a wedding?
    It's a special song for you and your dad - play it and damn the consequences! : (16 votes)
    38 %
    Don't play it - those lyrics could be very offensive : (15 votes)
    36 %
    See if you can edit out the start of the song, so it's just about family rather than religion : (8 votes)
    19 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    966 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I don’t think it’s anti-religious. Christmas really isn’t religious or about Christianity anyway… it’s just a fact. It’s not offensive. Plus it’s a song for you and your dad, so… I mean I don’t see anything directly offensive about it, like profanity or bashing of any sort, so I really think it’s fine. I doubt most people will be paying attention to the lyrics anyway.

    Post # 4
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    13017 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think it’s that offensive, but I do think it’s a very untraditional choice of a song.  Personally, I find it a bit strange to play a song geared towards Christmas at an April wedding, but thats just me…

    Post # 5
    Member
    6359 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I wouldn’t think a song would be worth the potential upset it may cause. As a host I always try to avoid knowingly risking making any guest(s) uncomfortable at my event. I’d choose a different one.

    Post # 6
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    2058 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Depends… Are you having a church ceremony? If not, then I think it’s fine! If you are, I woulstick another song!

    Post # 7
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    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think it’s a fun song, and I think it wouldn’t offend anyone but the most uptight Christian. That said, I don’t know if you’re a) going to have such people at your wedding, and b) if there are such people, whether it’s important you don’t offend them even the teensiest bit.

    I’d ask your Fiance what he thinks about it, anyway.

    Post # 8
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    7651 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    What part of the wedding were you having it played? When you and your dad walk down? And are you having this wedding in a church?

    If no, then I say play it (although I too find it weird to have Christmas in April)

    If yes to a church, I would run it by the church because some churches are very strict on music choices. In our contract it said we could only have religious music.

    My opinion I think it would fit best at the reception or dance.

    Post # 9
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    8453 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I personally think the beginning of the song is hilarious, but if you worry about offending your guests you should probably avoid it.  Maybe do an instrumental version if you really like the song.

    Post # 10
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I never thought my Catholic relatives were that hardcore about their beliefs, but some people on these boards would probably think so, because they would DEFINITELY flip out if we had used a song with lyrics basically saying I don’t believe in Jesus, that I’m not religious (I mean, it’s true, but we jsut didn’t have a religious ceremony, we didn’t blatantly put it out there in song lyrics), and that religious schools mis-educate children and teach them wrong.

    So coming from your husband’s perspective, PLEASE pick another song. If my husband had wanted to use something like this I’d be upset that he was basically asking me to choose between really pissing off like half of my family and him having the song he wanted. Don’t put him in that situation, just find another song that isn’t going to make his Catholic relatives uncomfortable. Not a religious song, just something that doesn’t put down his family’s beliefs – which, joking or not, this song definitely does.

    Post # 11
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    525 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’d go for it. If it has special meaning to you and your dad, then why not, right? I don’t find most people pay that much attention to song lyrics anyway, so most people won’t even notice there was anything in the song that could have been even partially be interpreted as being offensive.

    Post # 12
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    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I LOVE Tim Minchin so I say PLAY IT!

    Post # 13
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think almost every Christian I know would find that song offensive. But, even the suggestion that Christmas isn’t about Christ is offensive to them. I’m an athiest, so i’d be rocking along with you. But honestly, I don’t think your wedding is the place for this. It will inevitably ruffle feathers, and for me, that would outweigh the joy I got from it, especially if there were other good songs to choose.

    Post # 14
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    927 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Offending your new family isn’t the best way to start off your marriage…it may seem silly but this actually could be quite hurtful to the Catholics in the room. There’s so many other choices, maybe ask your dad to pick a song & see what he comes up with? He may already have something else in mind!

    Post # 15
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    5547 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think being intentionally offensive is never a good way to start a marriage and that playing song which  to me, as a Christian who is hard to ruffle, is offensive because it’s pretty obvious the point is to be offensive is a bad plan. I’m sure there is something else that is meaningful without causing issues with his family. I’m not saying that you have to bend over backwards to accommodate them but this is one of those things I can’t see it being worth the issues it.may cause. 

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