- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So one of my best friends, also one of my BM’s is having a rough time right now. She is going through a situation that totally sucks for her. Well my FI’s best friend and Groomsmen is currently going through the same thing. So I was talking to her on facebook chat and told her to add him so maybe they can talk about it? Oddly enough, they have never met. He just got out of a relationship about 3 months ago and she just got out of a terrible relationship in May.
So they start talking and they both fb message me that they think the other is really attractive. I look at this as a good sign. I love them both dearly. So they end up having a ton in common and plan on hanging out later this week.
Here is the issue. Groomsmen and my sisters best friend dated about 2 years ago for a little over a year. He was head over heels in love with her and she cheated on him, lied to him, all kinds of things. I don’t condone that at all, but I really do love my sisters friend as me and my sister are only a year apart and have always had the same friends. So of course, she will be invited to the wedding. She has a bit of a jealousy issue and I just know once she hears that Groomsmen is dating my Bridesmaid or Best Man she will try everything to get Groomsmen back. I’m not saying that Groomsmen will fall for it, but it’s a total possibility.
My Bridesmaid or Best Man has been through a lot the past 6 months and I’m weary of setting her up with Groomsmen because I don’t really want either of them to get hurt because they are both wonderful people and I love them so much. I’m afraid if they do get together and then break up, it will make the wedding super awkward since they are both in it,
I’ve been talking to my Fiance about it and he says to maybe not invite sisters friend and GM’s ex if it starts so much trouble. I would have to agree with him there, but it makes me sad that that’s the way it would have to be. I know we are all adults but when the heart is invovled, brains and maturity often fly out the window.
Have any of you other bees had a similar situation?