- This Time Round
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Great topic, and you of course aren’t the first modern woman to have to face this dilemma.
My BEST ADVICE as an old-timer… is to keep your wits about you, and ONLY do / give in this realationship as much as you are prepared to lose
Because ultimately living together has no guarantees that an Engagement or Wedding will happen
(Sad but true.. and far too many posts here on WBee and the WAITING BOARD that reflect that)
However, at the same time, I am certainly one who believes that couples should live together before they are married… a healthy relationship will make it thru any bumps along the way… and an unhealthy one will just get sicker over time… until someone pulls the plug.
Breaking up after living together is hard… but not nearly as bad as getting a Divorce. (This said by someone who’s trotted down that unfortunate road)
This is also why you have to keep your wits about you… go in with your eyes open. By asking this Question it does look like you are using your head to think, and not just leaning hard on your heart only
I am a big believer that you should be real about living with someone… but at the same time, you shouldn’t take on the role of Wife… cause you aren’t the wife… you are the Girlfriend.
There should be a distinct difference between Wife and Girlfriend, IMO
You might want to read a my reply (# 113) in a previous topic that goes into detail on that issue = http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/so-acting-like-a-wife-without-being-a-wife/page/3#axzz2dS4W49e1
And if you have any Questions you can ask here, or drop me a PM