posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

How many people are you trying to invite?  I would be worried that a lot of people already have holiday plans.  Can you find out if the “most important” (ex. parents, siblings, etc) would be able to attend?  Otherwise, eloping in December and having the party in January sounds like a good option!

Post # 4
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

send the invites and see what happens!  of course expect that some might already have plans, but I’m sure some will be available.  Unless you want to elope, go with the wedding!

Post # 6
1749 posts
Bumble bee

@kalliela:Yes, 4 weeks early would have been pushing it….2.5 weeks is way too close.

Post # 7
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

What do you have to lose?

I say go for it!

Can you hand deliver most of them? That way you can explain the situation, find out if they are possibly going to come and don’t have to waste more time using snail mail.

Post # 8
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d elope and keep the party on the 22nd. 2.5 weeks is crazy short notice. Also, you don’t HAVE to go on a honeymoon immediately following the wedding.

Post # 9
350 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@kalliela: Why not still get married on the 1/22 then just take the honeymoon later (say, during his Spring Break)?  You run the risk of inconveniencing a lot of people if you move the date up a month on such short notice (especially if you have out of town guests that might have booked vacation around your event). 

Also, I’m surprised that you’re not running into other vendor issues by moving the date (since you have centerpieces I assume you’re having a reception).  Even if it’s a situation where you’re cooking the food yourself and having the reception in your back yard, I assume you have to rent tables/chairs/silverware/plates/dance floor (which would have to be moved) and those that are cooking (I assume you can’t do it yourself) would have to rearrange their schedule to be free that weekend to cook. 



Post # 10
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You need to decide what will be most important to you in the long run… a better chance of your guests being able to attend or having the honeymoon following the wedding. Personally, I think having a delayed honeymoon just gives you two things to get excited about in a year!

Post # 11
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Send the invites out and don’t stress about it. The people who can come will and the people who can’t will send you their well wishes. Of course, be sure to let your immediate family know of the date change to ensure they’ll be able to make it.

Post # 12
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Call me crazy, I say elope/party in Jan OR have your honeymoon over Spring Break and just go with the original date.  That way you aren’t stressing yourself out, or the guests who can’t make it.

Post # 13
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

First – Please don’t post in all caps.  Its really hard to read and is considered “yelling”. 

If you are comfortable with just having your family and a few close friends there, then go for it.  However, understand that many people may not be able to rearrange their schedules under such short notice.

Post # 14
1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Shouldn’t invitations have been sent out early November/ late October anyway? I’d say go with the original plan and honeymoon later. 

Post # 16
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I think it’s veryy short considering the holiday season. However, I don’t see why you can’t have a small wedding then with your families and then have the reception as you had planned in Jan.

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