Post # 1
I thought this might be helpful to Bees in the planning stage. Please add your:
1. Total invite list
2. Number of declines
3. Number of people who said yes but didn’t show up
4. Number of “surprise” (uninvited guests/crashers) who showed up
5. If you had a local or destination wedding, and any extra info that might help
I’ll go first:
1. 90 invited
2. 9 declines
3. 6 accepted but no showed
4. 0 “surprises”
5. Local – the only out of town guests invited were 4 family (all came) and 7 friends (4 declined)
Net: 83% of my invite list were there.
Post # 2
1. 70 people, if you include all the plus-ones.
2. 30 declines (plus-ones made up about half of the declines.)
5. almost everyone had to fly in, except for us, DH’s parents, and two couples.
Post # 3
1. 356 invited
2. 55 declines
3. 2 accepted but no showed
4. No kids except for immediate family and bridal party. A few guests showed up with them anyway
5. Local – out of town guests were my dads side of the family…30 from Ohio, Maryland, Virginia and Illinois. From my mom’s side…6 from New York and 5 from Germany.
Net: 84% of my invited list were there.
Post # 4
1. 100 invited
2. 19 declined
3. We had 4 “no shows” (they rsvp’d yes but two separate couples had medical issues after the rsvp date so I did know they wouldn’t be there before the day of)
4. 0 surprises
Post # 5
1. 117 invited
2. 52 Declines
3. 2 No Shows
4. 0 Crashers
5. Our wedding was local for us but besides my husband’s immediate family and a handful of friends the majority of our guests were at minimum an 8 hour drive from our location.
Post # 6
1. 130 invited
2. 15 declined
3. 3 no show (a couple and their daughter – family emergency)
4. Probably at least 50% out of town… our generation of guests was almost all out of town but we got married in our shared hometown, also where my husband went to college. For most of our friends it was either a homecoming or a college reunion of sorts!
Post # 7
Ugh..worst part of the wedding planning was the RSVPs..
1. 198 invited I think
2. 123 said yes…so a lot of declines
3. 9 no shows
5. It wasn’t really local outside of our friends…my family had a 2 hour drive, his family had a 10 hour drive or hour and a half flight.
Post # 8
2 no shows
2 did not RSVP but showed up
Post # 9
1. 142 invited
3. 4 no shows
4. 1 surprise (uninvited child)
5. Local wedding with both families primarily living in town.
Post # 10
0 no-shows (one canceled a few days before due to being in hospital)
Maybe about 1/3 were OOT?
Post # 11
95 attended wedding breakfast (some family members only attended this due to long distance travelling)
125 attended evening reception (Very normal in the UK)
50 official declines
28 no shows (1 person only came to the church… a friend said the week before that she couldn’t come, no reason given; one friend was ill; a group of friends just did not show up.)
2 crashers- my great uncle and his girlfriend (he was old and thought he had sent back the rsvp but he hadn’t….)
1/3 of the guests were local including my parents. Everyone else- including the bride and groom were from out of town.
Post # 12
1. Total invite list 19
2. Number of declines 0
3. Number of people who said yes but didn’t show up 3
4. Number of “surprise” (uninvited guests/crashers) who showed up 0 (although someone who I invited along with her bf, noted that her bf could not make it initially, but he did in fact come.)
5. If you had a local or destination wedding, and any extra info that might help: local wedding for me but Out of Town wedding for DH family. The three persons who didn’t show up, I kinda knew they wouldn’t show. I kept this to immediate family and a few friends. It was perfect. Although my group was so small, I still felt like I didnt get enough time with all of them. I don’t know how you big wedding brides do it.
Post # 13
1. 70, including 2 in the UK (we’re in Australia) that we wanted there, but didn’t expect to come
2. 60 attended, so 10 declined. One was the day before due to serious health issues. A couple from work declined 2 days before the wedding giving us so many different excuses that we just didn’t really care TBH… not to be heartless, but every one of the excuses would have been known about weeks prior, so I wasn’t annoyed that they didn’t come, but that they had clearly never intended to come. Fortunately, we were able to invite another couple instead (who didn’t mind being ‘extra’ guests).
3. Just those mentioned above
4. We had a no kids wedding, and we were informed the day before that one of the groomsmen was bringing his 2yo. So that was fun… He was well behaved, but I don’t like the idea of there being an exception- we are closer to other kids and they weren’t there so if we’d known, we would have invited the other kids too (if that makes any sense!).
5. The venue was under an hour’s drive for everyone (except the couple in the UK mentioned at the start)- due to the time of night that it finished, most of us got home in 40 mins. Location played a huge part in picking the venue, though, and we didn’t want it to be too far for anyone (or too hard to get to!).
Post # 14
fun thread idea!
1. invited 101 day and 40 evening guests
2. 7 declines for the day and 4 for the evening.
3. We lost 1 adult and 1 child day guest due to illness on the day. 3 evening guests didn’t show up, not sure why.
4. 1 evening guest turned up for the full day! God knows how. We were able to wing it and give them the meal of the ill guest who couldn’t come. I’m not sure if they realised or not as they wernt on the seating chart etc, thank God for our DOC who sorted it all.
5. Local wedding in my home town, only 20 miles from my in laws too. Quite a few people did travel though and all our siblings live abroad so flew in.
Post # 15
This is really helpful! Thanks everyone!