(Closed) PLEASE advice needed on advice for friend :( (V Long)

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
368 posts
Helper bee

I would be encouraging, supportive, and just there for them. I don’t think they really need advice. They sound like they know they need counseling and to work on their relationship. When she talks about going to counseling just say it sounds good for her and be encouraging about her seeking it. They each can only work on themselves, and can’t change the other person. They have to be the best versions of themselves for the other person. I think they are in depserate need of counseling, may not be compatible, and it sounds like they really rushed into things. Hopefully with time and professional help they can get to happy place.

Post # 4
5988 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010
Post # 6
1329 posts
Bumble bee

I think this is honestly a pretty normal thing people go through when expecting a baby. Hidden expectations come out and they haven’t had time to discuss this and now are just butting heads over everything!

I think both of them need to discuss their expectations of each other and what they want from one another. It is natural for the woman to hope a man can provide for her and their child after the baby is born, and believe me, no man wants t obe the bum that isn’t doing that.

He should definitely be seeking other employment and preparing to save for the baby. She should also try to keep herself calm and also realize hormones are all over the place and that emotions will be exasperated.

I would take her book shopping for a good pre natal book, and have your BF talk privately to her hubs just to see how he is doing.

They both need lots of love and support.

Post # 7
3770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

As a friend I would tell her that I am always there for her and that maybe they should try couple’s counceling. Beyond that I would stay out of it.

Post # 11
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You can’t.  YOu can only edit your posts for an hour after they’re up, after that they are on weddingbee forever and no mods will remove it for you unless you’re their bff4eva.

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