Post # 1
My fiance has an 11 year old sister. We were not planning on having her be in the bridal party, but she is making it very clear that if she is not she will not be happy. I want as many people as possible to be happy on our wedding day. I have 3 bridesmaids and my fiance has 3 groomsmen & 2 ushers. I already think this is too many so I am hesitant to make her a junior bridesmaid. She is also pretty overweight for her age (170ish lbs) and I’m worried about finding her a dress to match the rest of the girls dresses. Is there any other role I can give her to help her feel included in the wedding?
Post # 3
She could do a reading! That way everyone can see her and she can be included without having to stand up there the whole time. Honestly, she’s 11. That’s a junior bridesmaid age so in theory she could wear a different dress… or just get over it and do a reading.
Post # 4
I think a reading is a great idea, guestbook attendant is another good one (unless she’d take it too seriously and track people down for their signatures….um….that’s what I did when I was 11…)
Post # 5
I think a reader would be okay, but she is 11…kinda young. Call her the “greeter”. She can hand out your programs and have guests sign your book like the others said above.
Post # 6
I agree with Tonya2010 i would maybe have her wear the same colors as your bridal party and either hand out programs or be the guestbook attendant so she feel “included”
Post # 7
I’m going to say guestbook attendant all the way for that one! Fiance has a cousin that’s like 13 that we’ll probably have do the same thing, because we know she’d like the honor of being included but in a less pressure (and more fitted to the situation) way.
Post # 8
I’m confused. Can you please clarify? Do you not want your Future Sister-In-Law to be a junior bridesmaid because she is too young or because she is overweight? I suspect that you are primarily concerned about the weight because it seems irrelevant to even mention unless you consider it problematic but I’ll let you clarify.
I don’t think 11 is too young to be a junior bridesmaid but you get to decide who you want in your wedding party. If she is your fiance’s sister I think it would be nice to include her and junior bridesmaid dresses are usually a little different from the bridesmaid’s dresses anyway.
If the weight is the concern then I’m not even going to dignify that with a response. Again…you can clarify and I’m hoping that the weight is not your concern.
Post # 9
My son at 11 can read very well! He’d be an amazing reader and I’d bet this little girl would be too! Get her btw, a very very pretty corsage and all will be well with her. Do make it a point to make over her role and how important it is in the wedding!