(Closed) Please advise…how to cope with drama and not let it ruin wedding joy?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When it comes to dealing with those drama initiating folks, i just put on a smile and remind myself it’s not me, but them.  I do my best to avoid direct contact with them and when forced try to particpate as little as possible.  Let the crazies be crazy around you and thank your lucky stars that the moment you are in isnt for forever.

I try to focus on the best parts and envision those things instead of the possibility of meltdowns.  Extra exercise, eating healthy, focusing on things that make you feel happy are definitely important. 

I also love volunteering and making someone elses’ day special.  That always makes me feel like a million bucks!!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

You just have to remember that you can’t please everyone and that weddings bring out the best AND the worst in people. The most important people in this equation are you and your fiance, so make sure you put your happiness first. This means standing by what you believe in and feel is the right decision for you and your Fiance.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

When planning for my wedding, I would always just try to remember what the day is all about. As long as I got to get married, I didn’t care what else was happening.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

two things

 

during the process: yoga does help!

during the wedding: just ignore it and focus on your and your husband–that won’t be hard

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you figure it out, let me know! Oh the drama!

Good luck!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yoga is key!

I think it’s also helpful to acknowledge our own disappointment at not having the ideal family we might want.  You don’t have to dwell on it, but give yourself a little love and comfort and permission to be sad about it.  In my experience, that really helps me get perspective, come to terms with it, accept it, and move on.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

i loved my wedding day, but i hated how i had to consider everyone else’s joy as well as mine. i know thats not the normal bride response, but for me, i knew that both of our family’s happiness was important to me.

 

*breathe*- this is the last thing in a long time where you will have to take anyone’s opinion, except for your husband(: , into account! as  much as we would like it to be, nothing in life is ever perfect, but you will have a blast!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I agree with the exercising/yoga! I found that when I exercise or go for a run, it helps to clear my mind and get out any of the aggression I have built up from the stress the drama has caused. I then find that it doesn’t affect me as much. So keep up the yoga and try to get some more physical activity in your life!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Evie19:

Good advice: Easy to give.  Never quite as easy to follow. Even when it’s your own advice! 😉  But I wish you lots of luck with it all.

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