(Closed) please correct me if im wrong..

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

no ifs and whats about it .. It’s not a relationship at all! 

Post # 3
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Helper bee

People in open relationships set their own boundaries, and I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to judge them. Some people want to be together but don’t like monagamy. It’s not cheaing if both parties involved consent to it. That’s just my opinion.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

From my understanding a true “open relationship” is a polyamorous one.  Both people in the “primary” relationship understands the boundaries and rules of the relationship and what is and is not appropriate with other people.  It takes a great deal of communication and trust.  I have heard that people in truly healthy “open relationships” actually feel closer to their partner because of that level of trust and communication that needs to happen to make the relationship successful. 

Obviously, I can’t speak to your ex’s current relationship, I’m just communicating that not all “open relationships” are not created equal, just like a monogamous relationship.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

An open relationship is along the blurry lines of casually dating someone but more emotionally invested. To each his own.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

It’s not cheating if both partners know the arrangement and understand that one or both will be having additional sexual partners. Not everyone is into monogamy.

Cheating would be having a sexual encounter without your partners knowledge or consent.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

People in open relationships do not abide by traditional rules and boundries. They have their own boundries and as long as everyone in the relationship is on board, who cares? I went to college with a woman in an open marriage and they had two beautiful children. They lived like that for.. jeeze.. 18 years? Whatever floats your goat. It takes an immense amount of trust and communication to sustain.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

It certainly isn’t for me, but it’s not cheating since both partners agree to it and there are rules. Not sure why she told you that anyway. Like you care. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

If both people in the relationship reach an agreement regarding the boundaries of their relationship, and those boundaries allow for the involvement of other people, then no, that is not cheating. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

oliviakatherine:  If both people know about it and agree to it, it’s not cheating. And I don’t see what value there is in judging grown adults’ consentual relationships. If they’re fine with it and nobody is getting hurt, who cares what they do or what they call it?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

Not my bag but each to their own to determine what works for them. Some consider sex just sex and nothing to do with the intimacies of being a couple. on the flip side I guess you could say that some people can be physically faithful but totally uncommitted in every other thought and deed. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

oliviakatherine:  How do you ever know what the other person said is true? You either trust them or you don’t. How would the “open relationship” factor change that? It doesn’t. You trust your partner to be honest with you, or you don’t.

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