Post # 1
I have a tiny family (just parents/siblings) and Fiance has a HUGE family (though no grandparents and his dad passed away a few years ago). Fiance doesnt want to be in TONS of photos and isn’t as sentimental as me so doesn’t want one’s on his own with his family.
What do you think of my list of formal photos:
- Bride + Groom, Bride’s family
- Bride, Bride’s parents
- Bride + mum
- Bride + dad
- Bride + Groom, Bride’s parents
- Bride, Bride’s siblings – I really want this pic. Fiance said he doesnt want one like this with his siblings
- Bride + Groom, Groom’s immediate family
- Bride + Groom, Groom’s family (mum’s side)
- Bride + Groom, Groom’s family (dad’s side)
- Bride + BMs
- Bride + Groom, GMs
- Bride + Groom, friends
Post # 2
Your lost looks good. Even though he isn’t very sentimental, I would still talk to Fiance about getting one of him and his family, as it would be a neat picture to have.
Post # 3
That looks good to me! I agree with spiffanee about talking to your Fiance about getting one with family or at least one formal one of him alone with his Groomsmen. In X amount of years he might change his mind and wish he had done one. Also, I might switch up the order. I think I would switch it to something like this:
Bride and Groom + Friends
Bride and Groom + Groom’s Family (Mum’s Side)
Bride and Groom + Groom’s Family (Dad’s Side)
Bride and Groom + Groom’s Immediate Family
Bride and Groom + Bride’s Family
Bride + Bride’s Siblings
Bride and Groom + Bride’s Parents
Bride + Bride’s Parentss
Bride + Mum
Bride + Dad
Bride + BMs
Bride and Groom + Groomsmen
That way you don’t have a large group of people standing around waiting for you to be done photos or waiting for their ‘turn’ to be in the group arrangement (unless you’re all traveling together of course, then it doesn’t matter if they have to wait for you). Plus, the older people can go sit down and don’t have to stand around. Also, it sounds like you might have a lot of people that you have to make sure arrive at the photo location (friends, your FI’s extended family). Make sure that you let people know somehow that they’re supposed to be in some of the formal photos. Even if you put a note in the programs or have your officiant announce it at some point. For example, in my area it isn’t common to get formal shots with friends who aren’t in the wedding party. I would make sure to let the people know prior to the wedding so that they know to a) actually show up at the photo location instead of heading off to start drinking/eating b) be able to dress appropriately for the photos. My DH’s step-sister didn’t know she would be in some of the photo arrangements and ended up wearing a super tight mini-dress that is meant for clubbing and like 6 inch heels aha. Luckily she had a jacket she could throw on so that her outfit was a bit more conservative and ‘wedding photo appropriate’ 😉 We went to a wedding recently and had no idea we were supposed to be in pictures – it was a total shock and totally disorganized. Luckily someone mentioned it to us right after the ceremony so we were able to find the photo location and didn’t hold anything up 😉 Basically, just make sure that if your arrangement is ‘non-traditional’ in your area, that you somehow notify people that you would like them to come for photos (even if you just send a couple of siblings to go and physically tell/gather people)
Post # 4
Groom + Groomsmen isn’t there – even if your FH says he doesn’t want these pictures I think you should nudge him a little. My DH didn’t understand my obsession about the photo list until the day of and then when we got the pictures back. HE was so happy we got all those moments and have all the pictures that the photog and I so carefully planned out.
Post # 5
Looks good, but I don’t think the list is necessary. All of these are standard photos that a professional photographer would already take. 6 and 12 are the only shots that aren’t a given (especially if siblings are in the bridal party).
Post # 6
This may not be the case for everyone, but Fiance and I got to talking about the formal shot list and the topic came up as to what the last formal picture of just my parents or just his parents (without any other relatives/friends) was. Each of our parents has been married 30 years or so and we’re pretty sure the last pro picture of them as a couple is at their own wedding. For this reason, we talked to our photographer and have added pictures with just his parents and just my parents. We figured it would be something they’d appreciate, but would also be a nice keepsake to have.
Post # 7
I wish we did this at my wedding! Our photographer asked if I could shorten our formal shot list and so I didn’t want to ask her for pictures of just my parents, but looking back it would be nice to have some formal shots of just them together.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Contemporary Art Center of Peoria
I agree with the bees above. You should nudge him a bit. Or even put it on the list, then blame the photographer. 😉 I think he could potentially regret not having them with his family. Especially once he sees yours.
Post # 9
Your list is good except I would do the largest group first. Reducing is easier and faster moving for photos than adding people in.
Post # 10
I would definitely nudge him a bit! Even if he doesn’t want them, you might. I made such a cool calendar with our wedding photos.
I disagree with mgbser
, my cousin didn’t have a list at her wedding and it was a fiasco. She missed out on a lot of pictures because there wasn’t an organized list. The photographers rely on you to get the people who you want in the pictures because they don’t know anyone and they don’t know your family make up. It also depends on the style of photographer if they’re laid back or documentary style, they’re less likely to take charge in organizing people for formals.