Please Don't Let Him Waste Your Time

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
434 posts
Helper bee

It makes me so sad to read things like this. I get the guy doesn’t want to hurt because he genuinely cares about her and loves her as a best friend but it is selfish and sad that he doesn’t see he is keeping her from a man that will worship the ground she walks on.  

Post # 3
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think this guy is probably a good guy at heart. But he’s made some really poor asshole decisions. Do her a favor and let her go meet someone that actually wants to be with her. 

Post # 4
947 posts
Busy bee

Sometimes, I think people talk themselves into relationships because they think that person is their only option, despite what reality actually is. This was certainly the case for that reddit poster, and I know I’ve personally fallen into that sort of thinking in my past relationships. It’s essentially an insecurity that most people don’t realize, often until it’s too late. 
In that poster’s case, I think it’s pretty shallow that he wants someone with values, and yet wants to dump her just because she doesn’t tickle his pickle the way he’d like. This woman has practically given the prime of her life to him, her virginity, her loyalty…and he wants to throw that away over mere physical attraction? 

I agree with the OP completely. If you have to keep questioning what he’s waiting for, stop waiting…you’re only wasting your life. I feel so sad for the woman in the reddit post…if she had questioned him sooner, she could have spent the past 5-6 years with her prince charming instead, and then the reddit guy would be free to find a relationship that satisfies him. People shoud just be more honest with each other the moment they start doubting…not 7 years down the line. 

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