Post # 1
I need some advice. We are having a number of really good friends and family attend our wedding. It is a destination wedding but almost everyone who is apart of our lives will be attending. As much as I love my social media sites like Facebook, I really don’t want my wedding posted on there. How do I go about asking people not to post our wedding on social media sites……or do I just not say anything at all??? I don’t want our guest to feel like they are limited, I just want to share this special day with special people, not everyone’s facebook friends.
Any and all advice is welcome!
Future Mrs. B.
Post # 3
Well you can always ask, but honestly, it will slip peoples mind, they won’t be thinking about it and it will get up there anyway.
Post # 4
just ask them not to post them on FB… and if they do, have them removed by the FB team.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2011 - Franciscan Gardens
I feel the SAME way buuuut when I brought up the subject to my closest friends they all looked at me like I was the craziest bridezilla… soooo, I guess I won’t ask anyone not to post. I just hope that the pictures that are posted are flattering 🙂
Post # 6
You can ask that no photos be taken at the wedding… I was told we couldn’t take photos at a rave I went to last week and I OF COURSE took photos anyway but I didn’t post them on my facebook because I didn’t want to deal with the issues. People may still take pictures but they won’t be racing to get them online when they were told not to take them in the 1st place 😉
Post # 7
Set up a photo-sharing account online, and at the end of the wedding, ask guests to upload their photos there instead of Facebook?
I remember one thread where the OP mentioned a wedding she attended where the couple gave out cards with the photo-sharing web address so that guests could share their photos there. On these same cards, you could politely inform guests of your intentions in not having photos on Facebook and I think most guests should abide if they do read.
Usually guests are just too happy to share the joy and the pictures so they upload it onto Facebook but if you have an alternative for them, it might work? Otherwise, you could ask them to privatize the albums on Facebook (can’t remember if there is such a function).
Post # 8
@Miss Marine: why is that? I feel like so much of our lives are already posted on facebook and other social media sites, but my wedding??? I’m not sure if that is the best place for it.
Post # 9
@miss forever: I really like the ideas you posted here. Maybe the best bet is to have some sort of a wedding website where everyone can exchage their photos and view the professional ones. Thanks for the advice!
Post # 10
it’s totally cool to ask your guests to refrain from posting them, but if they take the pictures, technically they own them and can do what they please. i’d hope if you express your concerns, your guests will be understanding. the pp’s suggestion of giving them a photo sharing site to upload would probably be a good compromise. what i did before our wedding was disable the ability for others to see photos i was tagged in. so guests could tag me all they wanted, but all my photos wouldn’t clog up my entire friends lists news feeds. sure, mutual friends could see the photos (if the guest posted the album to their wall and they clicked through), but ALL of my friend list was not able to.
Post # 11
have the DJ or someone state this before your entrance.
Post # 12
As far as general pictures of themselves/other people at my wedding, I’m completely fine with it. But when it comes to photos of myself on social media sites, I’m really picky about what I post and what I’m okay with other people posting. I’ve already asked my friends not to post any photos of me (wedding or otherwise) without asking me first.
I like the suggestion of disabling the FB option for people to see photos you are tagged in — that will allow you to see what has been posted before many others see them, and you can always ask people to remove them if you want.
Post # 13
A couple blogging bees posted about this and ultimately decided they didn’t want to rock the boat by saying anything, then were really glad they DIDN’T because their guests got some amazing candid shots and getting to see them pop up on Facebook helped tide them over til their pro pics came in! Just something to think about.
Post # 14
Good luck with that. We live in a social media world. I think it’s pretty crazy to not expect people to want to share your day. Any one person’s wedding is not SO secret/special as to warrant a photo posting ban.
Post # 15
You could start a photo sharing site such as shutterfly and ask that they post them there instead. That way they are off FB, but your guests feel like they can share their amazing pictures! Plus, you might get some great shots that your photog might have otherwise missed!
Post # 16
My sister told us she didn’t want anything posted on facebook about her pregnancy so i dont think that it is that far fetched or too much to ask.