(Closed) Please don’t post our wedding on Facebook….

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What would you do?
    Ask your guests not to post pictures on social media sites? : (62 votes)
    36 %
    Don't say anything? : (108 votes)
    64 %
  • Post # 32
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    You do realize that even if you ask, people will do it anyway, right?  AND they might just do it because you said NOT to do it.  (Yes, people ARE like that, even adults.)

    If someone takes a photo of you on your wedding day, it’s their choice.  What they do with it, again, is their choice.  

    I don’t think there’s anything you can do about it.  We live in a digital world with tons of ways for people to share everything (even stuff you really don’t want to know about, lol).  It’s part of our lifestyle.

     

    Post # 33
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    247 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Maybe a compromise–have the officiant explicitly ask people not to take pictures during the ceremony, but let them take/post pictures from the reception? Or just have the officiant make an announcement like, “The bride and groom are so glad you could be here today, and they want to make sure all the memories that get shared are happy ones, so they would appreciate it if you ran your pictures by them before posting them on Facebook”? Just talking off the top of my head here, there’s better ways to say it I’m sure.

    Post # 34
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Just say something or have the pastor or dj say something or have a sign somewhere that says… We are happy your sharing our day with up, but we want our special day to stay private with only the people we love, please dont post any pictures you take on facebook, or any other social networking sites.

    Post # 35
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    5837 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I was SO SO happy that people started posting pics on facebook after our wedding, professional pics don’t come back for awhile so it’s really nice to see your day immediately. Also, some of my favorite ceremony pics are from the guests. I’d try to relax and let it go, I bet you will be pleasantly surprised after the wedding.

    Post # 36
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    2191 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Good Luck with that….I see it is silly but it’s your choice.

    Post # 37
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    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have this same problem. I don’t want people posting pics either, but there’s not much that you can do. Mostly, I didnt want horrible pictures of me and Darling Husband showing up before our professional pictures were released. Maybe I’m vain, but the few pics posted were horrible and it makes me feel bad like why didn’t I look better or do this or do that – or did I really look that horrible, etc. I didn’t say anything as I honestly didnt even think about this. My brother took pictures all night. He took 2 at 1am after a full night of drinking and dancing. One picture I look like a deer in headlights. The other I am sitting next to him and have my arms in front of me. It looks like I’m topless because my arms cover the top of my dress (bad angle, bad pic all around). They are horrible, horrible pics. I told him not to post them and have asked him to take them down – he wont, he thinks they are funny. The best I could do is untag myself. Another guest posted 2 horrible pics too (catching me and Darling Husband off guard – weird expressions, half closed eyes, sweating in the humidity, etc). Luckily, everyone else has the sense not to post pics right away – they want to see the professional pics too. If the pics were gorgeous, I think my attitude would be different. However, it seems it’s always the bad pics that show up on FB – posted by people with no sense.

    Post # 38
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    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I honestly don’t understand what the big deal is.  I mean, yes I would be mad if someone posted an unflattering picture of me online.  But, I do want people to take photos and post them up of the decor and other people in the wedding (and good ones of me and FI!).  That way, I have more pictures and anyone who didn’t get to come can see them.  I am proud of my wedding and want to show it off!

    When I went to a wedding in May, I asked the bride which pictures of herself and her Darling Husband she liked, then I posted them to FB.  I posted pictures of the decor and other people freely, though.  I wouldn’t post any unflattering pictures of anyone, though, because I don’t want that being done to me.  Some people aren’t going to have the same courtesy, I know.

    Post # 39
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    7299 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You could always change your privacy settings to not allow yourself to be tagged in photos.

    A few blogging BEES and a few members here have voiced their concern with Facebook before the wedding. Then atfer the wedding, they are glad to have the photos because it could take months before the wedding photos get back.

    We live in a social media world now. There are ways you can stop it. You can hide your wall from view. (A friend just did this because she didn’t want 500 Happy Birthday’s on her wall) So when you go to your page, all you see is your info and not the newsfeed.

    There are ways around it if you are concerned. Good luck with whatever you chose!

    Post # 40
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    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I think your guests can/should respect your wishes, if you let them know.  That said, I got so excited to see pictures of my wedding on facebook!  People loaded some while I was on my honeymoon, and I got a happy surprise everywhere we had internet.  Plus it’s really wonderful to have everyone posting and talking about how fun it was after the fact.  I certainly didn’t leave myself tagged in all of them, and only certain people can see tagged photos of me anyway (only my “friends” on a specific list), so I’m not worried about random people seeing them.  But frankly you might change your mind.

    Post # 41
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    1312 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am slightly worried about this as well if we end up having a wedding vs. elope. Fiance is a police officer and has requested no pictures of him be on Facebook. Wondering how to deal with this. I like the idea of setting up a photo account for guests to post pictures…

    Post # 42
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    1275 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I agree with changing your privacy settings on facebook so you can see the pictures. However, i think even with an announcement, people would still post the pictures somewhere because that seems to be the norm. 

    Post # 43
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    6392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Honestly, changing your options to not allow people to tag you will be your best option. And don’t forget about Google Plus, some of your friends might already be on there. 🙂

    Post # 44
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    351 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I have had the same thought. I don’t like the thought of our pics on facebook and neither of us even HAVE facebook!

    I thought of adding in the invites.. thought of adding in the program.. thought to ask the priest to mention it.. but it will be posted no matter what I think. 

    And I was really nervous about it, but somehow as the date draws near I am a little more relaxed about it. NEVER saw that one coming! But I think I still might have the priest mention it while everyone’s in there, and say something about how the day is special, and put yourselves on there but anything from the wedding like the bride/groom together or the this or the that, save that for the personal albums– he’d say it good I think. But there will still be people that post!

    And you could be posing with someone, all pretty in your dress but with one eye half closed but the friend would still post them because they like how THEY looked and want to show they were out somewhere or at a wedding!

    Post # 45
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I deactivated my facebook. If they post them, I’ll never know and they can’t tag me. So honestly, I could care less if their friends can see pictures, they don’t even know me.

    Post # 46
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    1363 posts
    Bumble bee

    I went to a wedding like this. It was a lovely day but I don’t remember any of the details because I have never seen photos. And even the ones family I was with took, I haven’t seen them because they’re on someone’s PC and it’s not like I can go see them whenever I please. For this reason, I LOVE Facebook. Photos capture memories.

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