Post # 17
I have been to several weddings and no one has ever considered taking the centerpieces so I would never automatically assume that is common practice to do so.
If you are truly concerned that this is an issue, have your dj make an announcement.
Post # 18
Honestly, nothing surprises me anymore! This makes me really nervous! I feel like I should buy a box of etiquette books and pass them out to people as they try to leave with centerpieces in tow. Muhaha.
Post # 19
OMG @alicat…they took all of centerpieces at our wedding…I didn’t understand it…my mom warned me about it beforehand and I was like “I don’t think they’ll take it…why would people do something like that?” I had never heard/seen that before at ANY wedding that i’ve attended…but sure enough, without asking people took them home…once one person started taking them, other people took them as well…I had people come up to me as they were leaving (with centerpiece in hand) and ask if they could take it home…i was shocked…luckily we had bought all the stuff so it was no big deal, but I was still shocked…
I think it’s regional/cultural…so depending on your guests, you might want to say something if you feel like they will take them…
Post # 20
But what are you going to do with them? unless they are rentals tehy go back to the vendor. BUt otherwise are you taking them all home with you?
Post # 21
The thought behind taking the centerpieces is that the bride and groom are going on their honeymoon (traditionally) and they will not be towing all these centerpieces home with them. Just think if you had 25 tables. You would then have 25 arrangements to pack up and take home. The vendor is not going to pick up the centerpieces unless they are rentals. This is why people take them home. I think the reason people don’t notice it is because usually they don’t get taken until the very end of the night.
Post # 22
I have never been to a wedding that does not have some sort of dancing around the table with a dollar to win the centerpiece. I would right a corny little note for each table saying something on the lines of
Roses are red,violets are blue, these these flowers are so pretty, we are going to share them with another bride too”
Please leave the flowers on the table for the vendor to share with another couple to help make their day as beautiful as our day was. Thank you.
If you make a little corny people will laugh and pass the note around but still take it seriously and not think it is a mean note.
Post # 23
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House
The subject line of this post makes me laugh- it’s so true! I was thinking of tying little “take me” tags on the mason jar centerpeices so guest knew they could… but they CANNOT take any centerpieces using milk glass- those vases belong to our florist.
I was thinking of mentioning it in a toast lol!! I imagine myself as super cool and laid back and with the right amount of humor so everyone finds the announcement delightful….
I might need to think up a new strategy, or nix the milk glass.
Post # 24
I had no idea people really even did this.
Maybe I kinda did though because at my cousins wedding people were grabbing the flowers and taking them like it was free money laying around. My cousin set her bouquet down on the table near her seat and someone ended up taking that.
Guess some people just REALLYYY like flowers huh?
Post # 25
I had some people take centerpieces at my wedding (I wanted them to, we had 22 centerpieces) and some people that were sad they didnt take one because they didnt know they could. Just as you would make an announcement or do a game to determine who gets to the take them home, I would suggest having your DJ/band/MC announce toward the end of the evening to not take the centerpieces home. You could also put a note next to them, and have your bridesmaids or family keep an eye out to make sure no one takes them. If they try, then they can politely let the guest know that the centerpieces need to be returned.
Post # 26
Hi, Ladies –
Thanks SO MUCH for all of your responses – they really are helpful. I think having the DJ make a funny announcement is the best way to go. A little humor goes a long way! 🙂 I personally would never take anything unless I’m specifically told to. I don’t know where or how the tradition got started (wished I did LOL). At one wedding I went to, people were trying take not just the flowers, but the tables they were on, too (how weird is that?!) I was worried about sounding like Bridezilla; it’s just that the items don’t belong to me. Thanks again for all of your responses and, as always, I’m open to hearing more of them. Wedding Bees are the best! 🙂
Post # 27
I JUST had this conversation with my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor the other day while we were making my centerpieces. Every wedding we’ve had in my family, the centerpieces were gone before the end of the night. At my cousin’s wedding last year my grandma took home 3 centerpieces!!! It makes me cringe now, knowing everything that goes into them.
Post # 28
I HATE when people take centerpieces home like that… I’ve seen people get really greedy over it and grab as many as they (and their husband) can carry. I’ve also seen it get out of hand to where people see other people taking centerpieces and all of a sudden it’s a mad dash to grab anything not nailed down. Really weird. I would spread the word among close family to have them kinda keep an eye out at the end of the night. Not sure if I would leave a note on the table… I don’t know how I would feel if I was at a wedding where they had a “please don’t steal the centerpieces” sign on each table lol. But I think you’re right on with the dj making a funny announcement. I sure hope no one steals our centerpieces… I was hoping to re-sell them to make some of the money back that I spent on them!
Post # 29
This is so foreign to me! I have never seen or heard of people taking the centerpices! I think it would be weird to me to hear the DJ say “Please dont take the centerpieces” but I guess for some that is normal! I wont have to worry about this though since all of my guests are from OOT!
Post # 30
Yeah, I know a lot of people that have taken the centerpieces home – me included, only because the bride and groom announced it that they were giving them away as party favors. They made it into a game, whoever wins, they win the centerpiece. Luckily I won the centerpiece.
If the centerpieces are property owned, maybe just have a little card on the table stating that the centerpieces are “property owned” and not allowed to be taken. I think that’s classy enough.
Post # 31
I was pretty confused when my mom said something about taking home centerpieces. Apparently at family bridal/baby showers people always took home centerpieces where I grew up (obviously I was too young to know/remember this). She didn’t realize that these days many brides have to rent things like that.
I ended up buying vases, and the flowers obviously don’t need to be returned. So if a few people walk out with it– not a big deal, especially since I don’t need 8 of the same vase lying around the house.