(Closed) Please DON’T Take The Centerpieces and Decorations!!!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
1741 posts
Bumble bee

At most of the weddings I’ve attended, there has been some game to determine who got the centerpiece. I completely forgot about this until my mom asked how we would give ours away.

At one wedding I attended, the centerpiece consisted of roses atop rented vases and the DJ made an announcement that the flowers can be taken home but the vases must remain as they are only rented from the florist. I thought it was kind of odd but it worked. He also initiated a dollar game to determine who won the flowers and by the end of hte night all the flowers had been removed by guests.

Make sure you let your families know the situation before the wedding because they are often the ones giving things away or taking them home. My best friend got married last month and didn’t even get to keep one of her silver mint julep glass centerpieces because her Mother-In-Law told people to take them all home and they were claimed before the night was over. That was even a centerpiece you could reuse several of and she had expected she would get at least 4 of the 15 to reuse at home.

Post # 33
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ve been to few weddings that announce the guest can take the centerpiece home.  I think it make sense because the couple will take of to honeymoon in no time. 

My family kept the big floral arragement though because my mom likes flower.  My helpers pick up the left over floral.

At my friends wedding that I was Bridesmaid or Best Man, I saw the venue waitresses taking the flower (and those flower were offer to guest to take away).  They didn’t take the left over, but they pick the good flowers too, I think that’s kinda odd.


I think put a little card next to it and having a few relative to police will suffice

Post # 34
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve never heard of someone taking a centerpiece unless directed to do so by the DJ. I think you’re ok!

Post # 35
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@edisonsgirl:Im going to sell them on weddingbee after!  Maybe they can take the flowers out but not until the event is completely over.  My vases alone are over $30 a piece and I have 25 tables…

Post # 36
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Great!  Now I have something else to worry about!  Never in a million years did I think I would have to worry about people stealing my centerpieces.  WTF?!  I guess I’ll tell my wedding planner to keep one eye on the door and stop people if they try to run off with something.  What’s next?  The venue’s silverware?

Post # 37
22 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

I just read a good tip on Martha Stewart to supply cellophane bags for your guests to take home flowers but leave the vases etc.

People have taken the centerpieces at pretty much every wedding I’ve been to on the west coast. I’m keeping my vases, and I’ll tell my family to let people know they can take flowers but not vases. Also, we’ll have a doorman and only one entrance/exit, so policing will be easy (I hope!).

Post # 38
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Could you place a sticker on the bottom of the vase that says Property of ______?  This might be nicer than just a note on the bottom.  Make sure you spread the word with your bridal party and family that they are not to be taken. 

Post # 39
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I took the centerpiece home from my cousin’s wedding bc I asked other older relatives who already had theirs in hand! I think it’s largely word of mouth, so make sure your bridesmaids, family, etc knows not to take ’em and you’ll be fine! I think a humorous note on the bottom is good too!

Post # 40
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012


Like other Wedding bee-ers commented and you stated have the 

DJ /MC do the dirty work for you however remember 1 reminder is not enough.

Post # 41
645 posts
Busy bee

So I’m curious – is this strictly with flower centerpieces?  I’m doing ceramic birds and tall glass candleholders…  I’d be pretty upset if this stuff walked away since I was planning to list it for resale.

Post # 42
343 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow! I thought people only did this if there was a game to determine who gets the centerpiece – not that someone would just pick up a centerpiece and go home with it. No one took anything at my wedding, good thing too because I had to return the vases to my florist the next day. Maybe just a little sign by the centerpiece would help?

Post # 43
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ok I am horrified by this. I honestly have never heard of this before. I would never in a million years think of taking someones beautiful centerpiece off the table and taking it home! I just called my fiance and asked him about it and he is all for people taking them. I was like “WTF?!”

I have been putting a lot of work into our centerpiece ideas and I can only imagine how much money and time it will take to get this all finished. I do NOT want anyone touching or taking them! Does that make me a bad person?

I will be having a small ceremony and a formal reception a month or so later for a much larger group. I have made sure that I will double use my decor at both the ceremony and the reception. I am NOT going on a honeymoon there after for another few months. So I dont believe I shouldnt take home by centerpieces. I would like to save them and give them to my sister or one of my friends when she gets married!

Post # 44
26 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

i was reading these posts to my groom, and while he thought they were funny, he also felt picked on. ..

he tells me that in puerto rico it is tradition for the guests to make off with the centerpieces. that it is understood and accepted that the flowers and vases are additional favors.  he felt that his culture was being ripped on, but i assured him that this wasnt a ‘latino’ or ‘puerto rico’ board.  and that puerto rico is very small (as much as that statement galls him) and that that practice isnt accepted everywhere.

but since he let me know before hand, i went on ebay and bought a bunch of different cheap vases and am going for a more eclectic look that could be easily toted off.  (my favorite vases will be on MY table and i am going to keep an eye on them!!!)

Post # 45
6610 posts
Bee Keeper

It totally is done. Can you have someone policing the exit? All the other ideas are good too. I’ve thought about this as well!

Post # 46
11 posts

uhhggg….this totally freaks me out!  We are reusing our centerpieces the morning after for the breakfast we are hosting since we are having a destination wedding.  I really hope nobody takes them, as well as the napkin rings I purchased from Crate and Barrel.

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