(Closed) Please DON’T Take The Centerpieces and Decorations!!!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve never heard of this either, but I’m not surprised.

I guess I could understand if there are 25 centerpieces or something, maybe some of them can be given away, but to take without asking? Not cool. 

And since my wedding is going to be small (I’ll only have 6 tables), I can definitely use my vases later. My vases will be clear, glass, square 4x4s, so I can use them for candle holders or whatever else to decorate my house afterwards. So, yea, I’d be ticked if all my centerpieces disappeared.

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Our centrepieces belonged to the hotel so we were worried about this too…

We had out MC make an announcement. “Please do not take the centrepieces as they belong to the hotel. If you’d like one, please talk to the hotel staff about purchasing one”

The last bit was thrown in there just to give people a chuckle and steer them away from taking the centrepieces.

Post # 49
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve heard of people taking the actual flowers home with them but never the vases themselves!  I can’t imagine walking out with a vase in hand.  

We’re re-using our flowers at our day after brunch and then inviting guests there to take them home after that.  If you’re doing a day after brunch then that could be an option as well.  That way people can take home the flowers if they want to but they’re not taking them home during the reception.  

Post # 50
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Worker bee

usually the MC just makes a polite announcement asking the guests to please the centerpieces on the tables. usually no one thinks anything of it and centerpieces stay in place… all good!

Post # 51
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I was just thinking about this the other day, so I am glad this thread bumped! I bought all my vases, so if people take them, it wouldn’t be ruin, but they were expensive and I’d like to resell them so I can’t afford for too many to go missing. I love the idea of providing bags if guests would like to take the flowers.

Post # 52
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Worker bee

Holy Moly…thank you for bumping this thread or I wouldn’t have seen it either.  DD and I were counting in donating the part of her centerpieces (vase and mirror tile) that were donated to us and then selling the pom balls that will go on top.  Would it sound tacky to have the dj say that the kids are selling the centerpieces to help fund their honeymoon?  <G>  That sounds like an idea that would keep them from being taken. 

Wow, I’ve only been to Pacific Northwest weddings and have never seen this done, very disturbing trend.

Post # 53
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011 - Catholic Church, Lakeview Golf Resort and Spa

I’ve never seen this before, but if it were something I was really worried about, I suppose I’d stick a little note on our menu (maybe in bold?) saying that I’m flattered anyone would like my centerpiece enough to take it home, but I am renting them and they need to be returned soon after the wedding.

Post # 54
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow!  I had never heard of this but now I am a bit worried because I am going to be borrowing vases and need to return them to their owners, and I’m also planning on donating the ones I purchase to a local nursing home!  I was planning on putting stickers on the bottoms telling who they should be returned to/donated to (for my mom’s reference after the wedding)- maybe I should also include a phone number in case they get snatched!

Post # 55
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It is common place to take home the centerpeices… I have on several accounts. Of course if it was mentioned not to I wouldn’t have.

I guess you’d just have to tell guests (or the MC to mention it). Make it slightly amusing if possible. When people start leaving say something like “thanks so much for coming, and please as tempting as it may be do not take the centerpeices home, they belong to _______”

 

Post # 56
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Busy bee

I’m glad I saw this…a 1/3 of my centerpieces (vases) will be rented, People are accustomed to taking them. I do think it is rude but, I am letting key folks know so that if someone tries that maybe they will catch them.

After reading this, I may have the band make an announcement or do menu cards and place it at the bottom. I hope to sell the other pieces after the wedding.

Post # 57
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Have the DJ make an announcement if it becomes an issue,

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve taken them home before, but always only after being urged to do so by (usually) the bride’s mother, or a close female relative passed along word.  At my cousin’s wedding, she was personally insisting we take them.  Don’t think I’ve ever seen them go without that urging from someone you’d expect to be in the know.

Don’t have the DJ mention you are selling to raise money for the honeymoon.  Just tell friends (make sure to tell a few key relatives as well on either side), or tell the DJ to ask people to leave behind (no reason need be given).  If you are donating them, then it wouldn’t hurt to leave a note under them on the table or somewhere small on the program saying as such.

Post # 59
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It was one thing that we couldn’t use the centerpieces that were part of our package, because FI’s family is notorious for taking them home. We bought our own, and Future Mother-In-Law paid for all the flowers, so it was no expense to us.

But last week Future Mother-In-Law asked me how I was planning on “giving away the centerpieces at the reception”.  What?  I wasn’t.  Why would I “give them away”?  Apparently, it’s expected that we do some kind of silly game or raffle for the centerpieces “so that people won’t have to fight over them”. Seriously?  If people have sticky fingers, that is one thing.  But I am not taking time out of the reception to accomodate their rudeness.

Post # 60
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Worker bee

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@kay01:

Thank you for the advice, the note underneath sounds like a much better idea! 

Post # 61
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Newbee

As a wedding and party consultant I have seen this happen may times. 
 
But then at my wedding 30 yrs ago my aunt made beautiful ribbon roses on stems and we wrapped them around the candles on the table.  She must have made 200 bouquets of these things. By the end of the night we had maybe 30 left! I had 400 people at my wedding and if not for the MOH’s grandma yanking them out of peoples hands and saying “They are not party favors” I probably wouldn’t have had those! 
 
Now many years later I was looking for a polite way to say “Don’t touch my decorations!” 
Since I am the business owner and the one renting them to the bride. 
 
I think I will go with printing off business cards with our company logo on them and saying something like “Please take note that All table decorations are Rented and should remain on the tables.” 
Thank you
The Wedding Moms 
 
Thanks for the funny stories, I tell ya, till we got married I had no idea how many of our family and friends were thieves ! And 90% of them were from church! LOL

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