Post # 1
But can someone give me some practical answers to some questions that I should probably know the answers to? My wedding is 4 weeks from today, and I’m freaking out a bit over all the things left to do.
First, flowers…who gets them? We are having a super small wedding with a small wedding party. My sister-in-law really wants to do my flowers (we’re just doing wildflowers from a farmers market near the venue). But I’m hung up on things like boutonnieres and corsages. I get that the groom, best man (his brother) and ring bearer (my son) get boutonnieres. But my little brother is officiating, my older brother is walking me down the aisle — do they get boutonnieres? And then there’s his dad (who doesn’t wear suits), his mom’s husband, my mom’s new husband of 6 weeks…do they get boutonnieres? And then there’s corsages for the ladies…do we get one for just my mom and his mom? What about his dad’s girlfriend/partner? Am I forgetting anyone? If I google it, florists say that everyone and their mom gets flowers. Our wedding is pretty casual, but I want it to be nice.
Second, the lady that is doing my hair/makeup charges $100 per hour, and she estimates that she’ll need 2 to 2-1/2 hours for my hair and make-up. I can’t quite wrap my head around this, as it takes me 5 minutes to do my hair and make-up in the morning. But, whatever. My question is, do I tip her on top of the $100 per hour?
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
I can’t help with the flower questions as we skipped the whole corsage/boutineer thing and only had bouquets for me & my bridesmaid. But as far as hair & makeup, yes that length of time seems normal to me. 5 minutes to do your own makeup and hair is quite impressive. 🙂 I guess it also depends on what she’s doing…curls, an updo, etc? Airbrush makeup? And yes I would tip 20% on top of whatever the total comes out to. But i will say i’ve never heard of this charge being “per hour”… seems like she could then work as fast or as slow as she wanted to get paid how much she wants.
Post # 3
I’m forgoing florals for everyone except for the bridal party. For your hair and makeup, 15-20% tip is the norm, I think.
Post # 4
heatherfeather61317 : Youre making this more complicated than it needs to be. If the flowers are going to be inexpensive and your SIL dosent mind the extras I would make everyone one.
Post # 5
For flowers, we gave boutonnieres to the groom, groomsmen (x3), my dad and DH’s Brother-In-Law (who was also our MC for the reception). We gave corsages to my mum, my Mother-In-Law, my step mum and DH’s sisters (x2). We decided not to do bouts from the ring bearers, as we thought they were likely to get crushed (one of them fell asleep in the car on the way there, so they would have). In your situation, I would probably get bouts for your brothers and Future Father-In-Law, and corsages for your mum’s as they are all immediate family. I would probably also include step parents and FFIL’s girlfriend just to keep the peace, but if you really don’t want to get them one you can probably do without (it should be an all or none thing in my opinion – either they all get flowers or none of them do). Some people also do flowers for grandparents but we decided not to and they weren’t expecting them.
As for hair and makeup, I live in Australia and we don’t tip here – sorry I can’t help you with that. But my wedding day hair and makeup probably took about an hour and a half combined. If you’re having an updo, I can definitely see it taking longer. My stylist would do a bit of the style, stop to look at it and would redo it if it wasn’t perfect. Same with my makeup artist.
Post # 6
chrissybee : I am REALLY good at over-complicating things. I guess I should ask my SIL what she minds doing. I know she wants to make MY bouquet and she is refusing to let me use fake flowers.
Post # 7
heatherfeather61317 : i’m confused–who is going to make these bouts and corsages if you’re just picking up flowers from the market the day of?
Your makeup artists is slow. My MUA took 45 minutes. (Though our trial run took about 1.5 hours.) That said, $250 or so for wedding makeup is normal, at least in most cities. Yes, you tip her.
Post # 8
amanda1988 : We are buying them from a farmers market the day before, my sister in law is making them into bouquets and stuff that night.
Post # 9
Since I had fun with my trial run on the flowers, I’m going all Oprah with the bouts and corsages. “You get to wear flowers! You get to wear flowers! Everyone gets to wear flowers!” (Okay, not quite)
My dad and his lady friend
My brother (my dude of honour) and his lady friend aka my likely future SIL
Groom’s brother (BM)
The hostess of the wedding (aka groom’s boss, it’s at her home)
Groom’s niece who is our musician
Post # 10
Flowers – it’s up to you. No one ‘has’ to have them. The basic scenario is for the couple and bridal party to have them, i.e. bouquets for BMs and bride and boutonierres for Groomsmen and groom. You can just do that and everyone will think it’s lovely. You can do more if you like, it’s totally up to you and your SIL. Dunno about tipping, I live in Australia. The hair professionals I tried out did take a ridiculously long time. I ended up having my friend do it and she took half the time and it was much nicer! Go figure.
Post # 11
Corsages for the women are not really a thing in the uk so we didn’t worry about that. We had bouquets for the bride and Maid/Matron of Honor (I didn’t have other bridesmaids) then the groom, 2 dad’s, 2 best men and my Brother-In-Law had boutonnières. They were all dressed the same even though my Brother-In-Law didn’t have a role – it’s was just to include him. My flower girl (3years old) had a kind of ball of flowers on a ribbon loop because we thought they was too young for a bouquet.
Post # 12
Corsages: my friend did farmer’s market flowers as well, so the live flowers were only for bouquets and some vases along the aisle. Friends also harvested wildflowers from a friend’s farm for the tables and decor.
Their boutonnieres were made from lace, burlap, and dried/artificial flowers. We did the same for my wedding: real flowers for bouquets and for the mothers/grandmothers, artificial for the men. It saved 80+ just by cutting out the men’s boutonnieres!
Tipping: To my understanding, you are not expected to tip if the person owns their own service. If I hired someone from Cost Cutters to come do my hair, I would tip them because they’re only getting a (presumably) small percentage from what I pay. However, if this person does ‘freelance’ hair and makeup, taking home the full $100/hour, there’s no requirement to tip. You may still want to, but it shouldn’t be expected.
Post # 13
Oh, and our groomsmen didn’t wear suits either. We just pinned their flowers straight to their dress shirts. 🙂
Post # 14
We’ve decided on flowers for me and my MOH; boutonierres for the groom, best man and ring bearer; we’ll do boutonnieres for my two brothers if we’re feeling ambitious. No corsages or anything else. Phew.
The 2 to 2-1/2 hours estimated for hair and makeup also includes tattoo cover up, so that may be a good chunk of the time. I’m getting married in a small town, so am limited on my options — and being that I haven’t been there in 20 years, I’m just going with the one that was suggested to me by someone that lives there…and the hair and make-up lady is from Seattle (where I’m at now) so she can’t be that bad!
Post # 15
My best friend is doing my makeup (she does it for a living) and she said she needs 2 hours for that alone (she’s not doing my hair) so I think that amount of time is pretty standard