- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
My sister is 10 years older than I am. She’s on her second marriage, the first lasted nearly 20 years but was far from happy. She is now happy, new husband, new boobs, new nose and new wedding ring. It is a Simon G creation and I will admit it is perfect for her and it is very pretty. It is a band with flower designs and crusted with little sparkly diamonds.
When I was looking at rings I had no idea what I wanted, at first. Out of ease I kept looking at bands, just a band, call it good. That way I can’t get it wrong. And isn’t that just a sad way to think? yes, but we come to these kinds of choices for reasons, and for me it is because I always meet the criticism of the sisters (yes, there is another older sister) which is why I refuse to marry in the states or have a wedding attended by family that would choose to be critical.
Today was the unveiling of my ring as I just got back from Kuwait at 2am. I saw my sister today and when she saw the ring, she simply said, "it doesn’t sparkle a lot for the size, maybe it is because it is so flat on top, but the setting is pretty".
My little bubble hasn’t completely burst but seriously, the whole ring is nearly 100 years old. The band I picked out after month and months of looking and finally decided I wanted an antique ring. This one is dated around late 1920’s to early 1930. The diamond has been passed down in the family. The FH was trying to buy a diamond he thought would be appropriate, but let’s just say this is a bigger deal to him than it was to me. I was just getting tired of waiting for the ring because he wanted to save enough for the right stone and we are planning a down payment on a house in Houston. So, let’s just say the stone was not my focus. Getting the ring was important, so important that i said 4 months ago that he could put whatever he wanted into it. So, he took the stone that was passed down in the family, it is nearly a perfect fit, only .02 smaller than the Old European Cut that we had removed because it really didn’t have the zing that he wanted. But even with this .02 difference, I can’t tell. And in fact I am kind of excited about how these two pieces came together. It just feels like they were meant to be placed together and to me that represents us.
Did any of you ladies know what you wanted in terms of a diamond? That is did you go about learning all the terms and thinking of size and shape?
I didn’t. But I am really happy with my ring. However, I still think the wedding band is to be the most important piece of jewelry I’ll ever own.
First, how do I deal with my sister?
Mostly I am not saying anything. Same goes for the wedding. FH and I have agreed to not tell anyone about our wedding until after the fact.
Second, how do I talk FH out of replacing the center stone? He says the stone will make a great pendant and we can get something more sparkly for the ring.
third, how much should it sparkle?
one last thing about rings,
should I have it resized by cutting and putting it back together or get sizing beads? My hands seem to change in size depending on weather and my weight, a 5 to 10 pound fluctuation in either direction almost yearly.