(Closed) Please explain something to me

posted 11 years ago in Rings
Post # 18
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1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I know how you feel with dealing with sisters…I have two of them as well. One older and one younger. And I am so glad when I hear stories about sisters like this that Im not the only one that has sisters to deal with! I have a great best friend who is more like a sister to me and a great Soon to be SIL who is even nicer to me than my own sisters. I think in one way it sounds like you need to stand up to them and voice your opinion. My sister and I got in a fight and didnt talk for a yr and then even when we finally tried to make things better with her…she acted like we were the ones who were mad and she didnt even say sorry! But I knew my mom would probably invite her to the bridal shower so I made good for now for my own sake! But I dont really talk to her that much…shes not even in my bridal party…neither of them are. But I dont know about not telling them about the wedding…are you having a big wedding or any family members? As for your ring, dont worry what other people say…if you love it then thats what matters. I knew I wanted a heart stone and my fiance and I went to pick it out together. I think its great that the two things for your ring fit together…and it sounds like it was meant to be. Good luck with your sisters….

Post # 19
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1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I just read your reply post…and Im sorry you lost your mom. I cant say much more because I dont have a clue about being in your shoes. So I am just sorry for your loss.

Post # 20
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1481 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Wow i just checked out the pic of your ring on the other post…and Im still in shock that your sister said that…she must be unhappy!

Post # 21
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have to agree with the other posters. Your sister’s not paying for the ring or wearing the ring so her approval is not required. Besides, something tells me that if you showed up wearing a ring that was three times as sparkly as her’s she would have STILL found something negative to say!

You definitely sound like you’ve got it together. You know what you like and you know what makes you happy. I think your sister recognizes that and maybe wishes she had that kind of confidence and happiness. Don’t let her words get to you! 🙂

Post # 22
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with everyone else, your sister sounds mean-spirited and jealous/envious.  It is such a shame that she can’t be a supportive sister to you, but it seems like you are pretty used to her ways.  I say, brush it off!  It seems like nothing will ever warrant an actual comment from her.  The important thing is that you like your ring and are in love with your FH! 

As a side note, if it is an older stone that has been passed through the family it is probably a european cut, which has less facets and does tend to sparkle a bit less that the newer cuts, but it changes nothing in terms of beauty and value (especially the sentimental value!).

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with all of the comments, including Miss Paris’. A jeweler friend of mine once showed me a diamond cut right before the turn of the last century and it looked more like a prism than a diamond–they just didn’t have the technology we have today! It sounds like you know your ring is special because of its history and the sentiments behind it through several generations. Consider its "supposed" lack of sparkle just another facet (ha, ha!) of its beautiful story.

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