- Ms. Peach
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
So, my bff from high school lives out of state. We talk regularly on the phone – multiple times a week, even a day some times.
The problem is that she consistently carries on conversations with her daughter while we are on the phone. Her daughter is 3, and of course I don’t expect her to ignore/not attend to her child. I’m not talking about, “Mommy can I have this.” “Yes/No you can/can’t” exchanges. I’m talking about drawn out, minutes long exchanges. She is clearly in the middle of something with her kid, and it’s not a good time to talk.
And, after sitting on the other end, watching my life tick by, I suggest she call me back. She replies that she is “multi taksing” and “welcome to the world of motherhood” She is a Stay-At-Home Mom, and she’s doesn’t really ever leave her daughter. Even at night, you’d think she could call after her daughter is in bed, but she sleeps with her and they go to bed at the same time. (I know that will raise some eyebrows. That’s a whole seperate post.) She really has very minimal time away from her. Even if her husband is home it seems.
I’m not a mother. I have been around children my whole life though, babysat, worked at pre schools and Nannied. I know that’s not the same as being a parent, but I get it. I would not be upset if she told me she couldn’t talk. Let me go abruptly. Whatever.
I guess I would just rather talk to her less often than spend half the time ON the phone with her wasting my time. I feel like it makes me sound like a bad friend to say that though. I’m sure if I told her it would offend her. Am I being unreasonable?