(Closed) Please give me some advice my FI is his superior

posted 6 years ago in Military
  • poll: What should I do?
    Say nothing to my FI : (0 votes)
    Tell him no and please drop the subject : (5 votes)
    36 %
    Explain to my FI how I feel : (4 votes)
    29 %
    Ask my FI to talk to him : (5 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
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    11272 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    why isn’t this guy setting up his own accounts? 

    Post # 5
    Member
    3692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Oookay…why can’t he create his own account?  What the heck kind of site is it?

    Post # 7
    Member
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Regardless of why he can’t do it himself, there’s no reason that you need to do it for him, especially because it caused you so many problems. Just tell him NO and repeat as many times as necessary until he gets the point

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I would ignore the friend. Coming from a military background, its best you are “ignorant” and “unavailable” than you say something to either your Fiance or his friend. Unfortunately, in the military if you piss someone off, they will get you (in this case your FI) back one way or another. Its not worth the aggravation and the immature politics that come with it. I would just mention to your Fiance that your uncomfortable and will minimize dialogue with his friend.

    Sidenote: Superiors are not suppose to fratenize with their inferiors like that — keep that in mind.

    Post # 11
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Aww.. I understand from a human with a heart way – but in the military, there shouldn’t be much empathy because than situations like this happen. Id just try to naively avoid it. It will pass :0)

    Post # 13
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Its tough because for him its not only a job, but a lifestyle. And its tough for some military persons to be able to be less nuturing because they are essentially the “daddy”. Keep your head up. I would maybe tell your Fiance that you are sorry he is in this predicament but you would like to be removed from it as its causing your stress as well as stress on your relationship. It may be tough because its very difficult to separate military work from personal life since they are blended, but odds are he will rather the conflict avoidance than the brawls.

    Post # 15
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    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Is he home or overseas? Your hurt is completely warranted. Its just a matter of channeling it so it doesn’t cause damage to your relationship. That isn’t neccessarily fair to you, but its the best way to keep everything “calm”.

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