(Closed) Please Help….

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

If you’re worried for your friend, I wouldn’t be. She’ll let you know if it’s too much for her.

If you’re worried that you’ll be down a Maid/Matron of Honor, maybe you could designate two MOH’s a bit later on? Then if she does pull out, you’ll still have a Maid/Matron of Honor without them feeling like a ‘back up’.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ledgersmom:  This is my worst dream come true.  I’m so sorry that the timing of your wedding and your MOH’s due date are SO close!  The good news is that your Maid/Matron of Honor will be able to take part in all of the events leading up to your wedding.  Best case scenario is that if her pregnancy and delivery go well and she delivers before your wedding then she will likely be able to at least stand in your ceremony and be at the reception long enough to give a toast.  Most women who give birth vaginally with no complications are able to get up and walk around within a couple of days so while she may not be able to dance the night away, she should be able to stand with you for the ceremony.  Worst case scenario she ends up giving birth the day of your wedding or 2-3 days before.  A due date is a rough estimate.  Usually there is a window within which women can give birth (either 2 weeks before or 2 weeks after the due date).  

     

 

Post # 6
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ledgersmom:  Helping you with your wedding might acutally be a great escape for her if she has had several miscarriages and is worried about this pregnancy.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would predict that she’s not likely to make it to the wedding.  I’d leave her Maid/Matron of Honor for the honour, and just be one person short if she doesn’t make it.  No need to promote a backup or anything.  Her responsibilities on the day are fairly minimal, especially if you have other bridesmaids.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@ledgersmom:  

In that case I think it should be ok. I imagine that she’ll be pretty careful not to stress herself out, and i’d just keep her responsibilities to a minimum until after the first trimester (once the risk of miscarriage has gone down). As Artdecolisa said, this could be a good escape for her. You sound like a good friend 🙂

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