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Buzzing bee
Okay heres the situation:
I am Maid/Matron of Honor in my friends wedding. Her family is from out of town (has to fly in) and the groom’s family is from out of town (fly in or 7-8 hour drive) but all her friends are mostly in town here. (the wedding is here as well) I am planning her bridal shower, and i sent out a peliminary email to find out who could come to the bridal shower so i can give the place the final head count since i have to finalize the count before i can put a deposit down. It seems that neither her mom and sister nor the grooms mom and groom’s sister can make it, costs too much to travel here. π
It is totally low key – nice bridal brunch with drinks and friends, but i feel horrible that NONE of the mothers will be able to make it.
So i have now also planned a spa day for the moms and bridesmaids a day before the rehearsal when folks get into town. So that way the mom’s get special time with the bride as well.
Do you think this is sufficient? HELP?
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Wannabee
How thoughtful of you, I think it is a terrific MOH!
Post # 3

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Blushing bee
I think that’s a wonderful way to include everyone.
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
oh good! I was worried the moms would be mad that they cant come to the shower, but i know the bride and she wont be up for something so structured so close to the wedding when people will be there, so i figure the spa day is a way to relax everyone AND get family time in π
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Sugar Beekeeper
I think that sounds great! Really her sister should prob offer to throw her a separate family shower in their home town– but I think you throwing one in her home town for friends is great!
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Bumble Beekeeper
As both a just recently married bride and now a mother of the bride, I think this is an awesome idea π
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Honey Beekeeper
Does the location you are doing the bridal shower at have internet acces? You could always suprise her and skype them in.
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Busy bee
You are now my Maid/Matron of Honor. Ok? Deal?
You’re awesome! You can always talk to her mom about them not being there if you’re really concerned, but I think its fabulous that you considered them and that you’re trying to include them.
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Busy bee
I love it π That is so wonderful of you to plan for both π What an awesome MOH!
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Buzzing bee
@tksjewelry: OMG best. idea. ever.
@CorgiTales: and her sister isnt the most enthusiastic when it comes to weddings (different culture) – hence why the bride has a Maid of honor (her sister) and me the Matron of Honor – im all gung ho about wedding planning since i just got hitched myself (yall know how it is for a new bride – you swear you should be a wedding planner! lol)
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Worker bee
That sounds wonderful. Don’t feel guilty, it’s out of your control. I think it’s great that you’ve found a different way to include them. You’re awesome!
Post # 11

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Buzzing bee
Thank you ladies!!!!! i feel much better – and im now itching with ideas of how to skype into the shower or at the very least maybe get her mom to record a video message and play it? hmmmmm