posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: What should I do?
    Tell my partner I found the ring and it's not right so we can send it back within the 30 days? : (24 votes)
    75 %
    Say nothing until he proposes, then tell him it's not how it should be and hope we can return it? : (4 votes)
    13 %
    Keep my mouth closed and learn to love the ring as it is, even though it's not what we ordered? : (4 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    23 posts
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Tell him you found the ring if you don’t think you can live with/grow to like the one he’s got you. It’s not like you purposely went hunting for the ring. It’s better to be honest. I’d either do that or say nothing. What’s he supposed to do if you tell him after the proposal? Not only will he probably be a bit gutted you don’t like the ring he won’t be able to do anything about it by that point!

    Post # 5
    1710 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I would tell him.  It wasn’t your fault that you found it while you were cleaning and he shouldn’t find issue with that.  Although, I wouldn’t have left it in the car if I were your partner (what if someone broke in?).  

    Post # 6
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I would say you should probably tell him you accidentally found it. Personally I would stress the accidentally a whole lot Tongue Out.  If it really isn’t what you want and he doesn’t propose before the 30 days are up you probably won’t be happy. Then he won’t be happy because you are not happy and it will be a whole big thing. 

    Honesty is the best policy!

    Good luck! I hope it all works out for you!

    Post # 9
    309 posts
    Helper bee

    I think that as a man who spent alot of money on a ring that his future wife is going to wear for the rest of her life…

    he would want to make absolutely sure that she is going to 10000% love it!

    you weren’t snooping (who would think of it being hidden in the boot of all places) so I don’t see any reason he would be upset

    Post # 10
    363 posts
    Helper bee

    Tell him! Don’t wait until it is too late. Besides, you both should get what you ordered and paid for plus you really did find it by accident so he can’t be too upset. I’m sure in the long run he would rather it be correct:).

    Post # 11
    31 posts

    I agree with the other bees! It was an accident that you found it, and it is better to change it now if it is not something you want (esp. with something so expensive). Best wishes to you and I hope it all works out in your favor!

    Post # 13
    2224 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @kmz21:  I think that’s awesome on the jewelry company’s part!

    I worry about you not telling him, though. Is this something that might eat at you for not telling him? Maybe tell him a while after he proposes that you knew all along? I know something like that would eat at me and make me feel guilty for hiding it. 

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