(Closed) Please help!! Advice! Wedding almost a week away!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

She’s obviously now trying to be manipulative. I would not trust her. Tell her sorry, but you can’t accommodate her.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh my lord.  I’m sorry you’re having so much drama the week leading up to your wedding.

If this were me, there is NO WAY IN HELL I would do a mother/son dance.  Not after everything she’s put you and your Fiance through.  Good grief.  And I agree, you shouldn’t be making accomodations for her.  Not after the hell she’s put you through.  It’s your day and your FI’s day…you should be happy and have no worries.  I would NOT appease her.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Stick to you initial plan, plus you never know what she will try and pull on the big day. So if I were you I wouldn’t include the dance, one she doesn’t deserve it, and two that would be a pretty big thing for her to throw a fit during (could you imagine if she got mad at your Fiance and just decided to sit down and throw a temper tantrum in the middle of the dance or something)

It was her decision to act mean and nasty to you and now she is having to deal with the consequences. It’s amazing how many grown people don’t think that their actions actually do have consequences, and some people are mature and have moral and don’t just conform to their twisted ways. It’s your day so don’t even think about her, and just be happy and enjoy it with you and your Fiance and your family.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I CANNOT AGREE with menobride MORE! Don’t let her pull you back in! Just tell her that it’s too late, she has had her chance to do this the right way and since she refused, she won’t be welcome (or something to that effect). Or, probably better, just ignore her. I know it’s so hard because she’s his mom, but it honestly sounds like it would be for the best.

Be prepared for some backlash, though. Don’t let it change your response, but expect her to tell anyone and everyone she can about how she “tried so hard to accomodate your demands” and was “snubbed after all that”. She sounds like the kind of person who will absolutely try and make herself the victim.

I don’t envy you dealing with this, and I am glad to hear you’re still so excited. I hope this works out– let us know how it goes! Best of luck.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ignore her. just tell her that you are sorry but it is too late thats all. Dont trust her she is up to something…

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Stick to your plan. She is being manipulative and two-faced. I’d politely let her know that the music needed to be in to the band weeks ago, and at this point you cannot accomodate her late request for a dance. Or you could go the direct route and have your Fiance say he doesn’t want to dance with her after all of her drama, nasty phone messages, and declining the invitation to the wedding. If it were me, I wouldn’t even allow her to attend, but that might make things much worse, which you don’t want on your wedding day.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I just re-read ALL the posts you had linked back to.  In My Humble Opinion, she lost her chance to a Mother/Son dance. Personally, If  I were you, at this point, I wouldn’t let her or Future Sister-In-Law NEAR your wedding!!  I would talk to your officiant, and see if they have to ask if “anyone objects to the wedding” or if that line can be left out.  And if, because the Fiance really wants to try having them there, I would definitely have a “bouncer (s)” there, to kick and Future Sister-In-Law to the curb if they start making a scene!!!NOT LET THEM RUIN YOUR WEDDING DAY!!! Hopefully, Fiance is still covering your back! (((Hugs)))

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