- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
Hello, Hive. I am a regular poster, but I feel I want to be more anonymous to make this post.
I know you bees give really good advice on the boards, and after an internal struggle trying to figure things out on my own I decided to throw it out to you. I’d love some help sorting through my feelings and figuring out how best to approach my concerns.
Darling Husband is a wonderful, wonderful man and husband. Great with kids, responsible, loving, ambitious, smart, funny, honest…all that good stuff. We are extremely happy together and really don’t have any major problems (all couples have little problems from time to time).
I am working out of town at the moment and Darling Husband just got home yesterday from a business trip as well. I talked to him yesterday afternoon and he was going to take a nap since his travel wiped him out, which is fine, he said he would talk to me later that afternoon/evening. Well, I couldn’t get a hold of him all that late afternoon/evening at all. He did not answer his phone or respond to text messages asking him to please call me.
I feel like a want to throw up. Here’s why:
This is not the first time that I have not been able to get a hold of Darling Husband (this has not happened often, maybe three times since we’ve been together) and, okay, maybe there has been the times when his phone died and he really DID sleep through the evening/night until the next morning. HOWEVER, the other times I was unable to get a hold of him? …
-he spent the night in jail for a DUI after attempting to drive home after visiting at a friend’s house
-he was arrested for public intoxication the moment he walked out of a bar at the end of the night (after it closed with everyone else! mutual friends were there, too, and said that the police were really out of line and arrested him for no reason, other than just being there) and spent the night in jail
-he went out for a ride on his motorcycle one afternoon, and did not come home until the next morning. He had stopped at a local restaurant/bar and ended up hanging out with some other bikers he met there (but didn’t know beforehand). They went out riding together and stopped at at least one other bar, stayed out late and got pretty “tipsy” so Darling Husband decided it would be best to stay the night at “Crazy Harry’s” house who lived near by instead of coming all the way back home. Of course, he didn’t answer his phone or call me until the next morning when I was still trying to get a hold of him, because I’m sure he knew he was doing something of which I would disapprove. He came home that morning still feeling the effects of the previous night, and realized he left his debit card at the last bar. We had to go pick it up.
So, bees….as you can see, if I am unable to get a hold of my sweetheart all night, yes, he might have been doing something completely innocent (like sleeping with a dead phone), but my feeling worried/uneasy/sick-to-my-stomach about what bad situation/decision he’s in/made *this* time is not unfounded.
Like I said, this sort of thing does not happen often, but I hate that I have to worry about it even happening at all…
….and now, he is calling me. Let me see what the situation is this time…I HOPE TO GOD it is not another night to fill me with dread and disappointment. Standby for an update….