Post # 1
Does anyone know the proper etiquette on an RSVP date? Our wedding is March 19th 2011 and my invite designer is requesting the RSVP date today so that she can finish the design. I have NO idea! HELP!!!!
Post # 3
i would say 3 weeks before the wedding….. although im not really sure 🙁
Post # 4
Typically its about 3-4 weeks before the wedding. I did six weeks because everyone is traveling, and a month would be Dec 15, right before Christmas. I didn’t want people forgetting! Just do what makes sense to you. There are going to be stragglers no matter what date you put on there, but hopefully you can get most of your responses back to tell the caterer.
Post # 5
When are you sending your invitations? When does your venue/caterer need a final head count? How many people are you inviting? All of these answers will determine when you need the responses.
Generally speaking, always leave yourself a minimum of 1 week before any required dates (like the head count) because it’s almost a guarentee you’ll need to call some guests who didn’t RSVP on time or at all.
Example: your wedding is March 19th, your venue needs a final count 10 days prior (the 9th) so you should request responses for March 2nd at the very latest.
I hope that helps at least a little bit!
Post # 6
My wedding is March 27th and our RSVP date is Feb 7th. I think the key part is when does your caterer require your final head count? Mine does 4 weeks prior and I gave myself an extra week to track down the missing ones. However, I know other caterers don’t require it until a week or two before. I might be wrong but I think most people go off of the deadline for numbers at either your venue or caterer.
Post # 7
Ekk, I have no idea if the caterer needs a final head count… :/ They never said anything about it!
Post # 8
I am setting our RSVP date 6 weeks before our wedding. I want to make sure that I have the final count early, so I can give it to the caterer and also for my own peace of mind. Check your contract with the caterer; it should have the date/timeframe that they need the final numbers by.
Post # 9
@Miss Seersucker if you can’t find anything in your contract I would try to call or just set the RSVP date 4-6 weeks before to be on the safe side. It is better to have extra time to work with then to be behind and late.