Post # 1
Bees, you are always so helpful with advice and I am in need of some. I was recently diagnosed with epilepsy less than two months ago. I’m still adjusting to it, emotionally and physically, and my medication is still being regulated. To add onto my stress and sadness of the diagnosis, I have gotten a rush of baby fever. We weren’t planning to TTC until next year after a vacation in October, but I want one so bad I can’t even stand it. Obviously, my husband does not think this is a good idea now because of my health, he wants to be sure I am in a good mindset and stable on medicine. Deep down I know he is right and pregnancy right now would be a bad choice for me. But I can’t shake it. Usually I can get over it very quickly but this time my usual deterences aren’t working.
So bees, if you could give me some advice, I would really appreciate it.
Post # 2
Just focus on getting yourself into a good spot for the baby. Think of it as pre baby planning. I am not in the best health and I’m trying to get there so everyday before I go to the gym I think of cute little feetsies!!! I sometimes buy a cut little obese or something if I’m really struggling for motivation, granted that might get my baby fever going a bit more, but I know it’s not a good time right now.
I know you want the best for your future baby and getting yourself in a good spot is the best thing you can do for your future baby 🙂
Post # 3
In the long run- a year really isn’t a very long time. My husband and I got baby fever over a year ago and were going to start, but then our senses kicked in. We had new jobs, and were living with my parents while waiting to close and fix up a house- not ideal time. We decided to plan one last special trip together before kids- it gave us something different to look forward to. We had an amazing trip in Europe, and now we are finally TTC. It was hard at times, but it was definitely the right choose. It isn’t going to drastically change your life to just wait a year.
Post # 4
ahartig : Thank you for your post! Since I’m emotional, reading it got me teary eyed lol.
Post # 5
I posted a couple weeks ago about having a chronic illness and not sure when/if my husband and I should TTC. So I know it’s a sensitive topic. You’re right in thinking that you need to get your health on track and ready for a baby. Pregnancy is hard on the body, so you need to be the best you you can be so that you can be the best mommy you can be 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 6
My oldest daughter was diagnosed with epilepsy earlier this year. She is 13, so obviously lots of time before she needs to make decisions regarding family planning. And I know it’s barely a blip on her radar right now, but as a mother and woman it’s something I have worried about for her. Since you are recently diagnosed, I recommend educating yourself as much as possible. There are several types of seizures and different kinds of epilepsy. If you haven’t yet, you might want to look into online support groups specific to the kind of epilepsy you have and find people with your experience. I found one for my daughters specific kind of epilepsy and it has been very helpful to talk with people who know exactly what we are going through. I know it is hard to put TTC on hold for a bit but getting your meds in order and getting yourself as healthy as possible is so important. I wish you the best of luck.
Post # 7
Can I ask what sort of epilepsy you have? I was diagnosed earlier this year with generalized epilepsy without absence. I’ve only been on meds for about a month and a half (hey, we should be New Epilepsy Support Buddies!), and as soon as I started, my immune system just died and I’ve been incredibly ill ever since. Like, multiple ambulance rides ill. The transition is rough, but I also realize that as far as epilepsy goes, “without absence” is about the best you can hope for.
Still, I know that the meds can do nightmare things to your body while you adjust. I’m delighted to say I have not experienced Keppra Rage, but I did have about two weeks where I couldn’t eat. At all. I had a few five minute windows in the day where the nausea let up enough to let me cram down something dense. And again, my immune system just left once I swallowed the first pill, so I’m on a litany of other meds now to try and combat whatever it is I’ve contracted that keeps giving me absolutely random fever spikes. This is with one of the mildest forms of epilepsy with the least impact on quality of life, and I can’t imagine adding the stress of pregnancy to my already-tortured poor body. Epilepsy meds can do such strange things to you – I know it’s hard, but I really would focus first on stabilizing yourself and your body, both for your sake and for the sake of the children you want to have. You don’t want to have to have a major med change mid-pregnancy – so many of the med options out there are dangerous for pregnant women and their babies.