Post # 1
My fiance and I live in a rural community where everybody knows everybody and we are trying to have a small wedding. He doesn’t get along with all of his family, however those same family members talk a lot to some of my family members. I need to find a way of making sure his family members don’t feel ignored or upset when we don’t invite them becuz he doesn’t get along with them. Is it ok to send them some type of announcement (preferably before hand to avoid a big fallout due to the grapevine) without actually inviting them to the wedding?
Post # 3
I think announcements are sent after the wedding, if you send them before, people would get confused that they’re actually invited, I think! Are you drawing “lines” as to who is invited in terms of familial relationship? (only aunt/uncles, or first cousins only?) If you are just picking and choosing based on who your Fiance likes, I think it’s going to be very tough not to piss people off unfortunately.
Post # 4
i think if you were to contact the family members that will not be invited – you are going to create confusion
i would be speaking to the person that talks to both sides of the family and start saying “small and intimate with very little room for big numbers” alot – start getting the message across that not everyone will be invited
im guessing you are going to get comments at some point – this happens is most weddings and seems unavoidable im afraid