- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I am having so many issues with the fact that I do not want bridesmaids at my wedding. I have 5 sisters and I chose the sister I am the closest to be my maid of honor. My sisters were upset at first but now they understand and respect my decision. The problem is my fiance’s only sister. She is 40 and never been married, I really like her and we get along pretty well but I don’t want anyone as bridesmaids. I want something simple. I never pictured having bridesmaids at my wedding.
Yesterday we were talking about the wedding and I told her for the first time I don’t want bridesmaids and she gave me a look like she was about to cry. Then I told her that I would like for her to be part of the ceremony and read a passage during the ceremony. She did not seem to be excited about that and just kept trying to give me other options such as just giving the bridesmaids a color and they can pick their own dresses so they all don’t wear the same dress.
I feel bad bc she is very close to my fiance and it’s just the two of them (no other siblings) and he said that she is very excited about our wedding and was looking forward to be part of it… My question is: isn’t doing a reading more meaningful than being in between six other girls dressed the same and just standing on the altar? I don’t understand why people need to have these “titles” at weddings, I feel like she is missing the whole point of the wedding, which is to me about the TWO people getting married and sharing their union with their family and friends.
What do you think? How do you think I should handle this? I’m sorry for the long post… Needed to vent 🙁