Post # 17
At the end of the day it is NOT just you and her. Her and her son were “one” BEFORE you even entered the picture. It IS a package deal, and you need to realize that you are marrying the “one” they were before you ….
Post # 18
I have to disagree. A wedding is between a man and a woman. Contrary to what most people think, in a Christian marriage, your spouse always comes first and your children second (both after God, of course).
In modern society we tend to place children first and spouses second because we can divorce a spouse but not a child. But that’s an artifact of our times and not the way God intended us to look at families.
Post # 19
I agree with people, you cannot add anything to the Liturgy, the Liturgy is to be left alone as is. The Rite of Marriage is set and you could not add or leave out any words even for the good intention of mentioning existing children or family. The bride and groom adminster the sacrament to one another and they and their witness (i.e. priest) are the only people who are to be involved in the Rite.
But as people previously mentioned, the son can be a ring bearer, liturgical minster, altar server.