(Closed) Please help! I hated my hair on my wedding day and I am OBSESSING over it!!

posted 9 years ago in Beauty
Post # 32
1075 posts
Bumble bee

u look beautiful maybe ur talking aboutthe fly aways but honestly it makes u look soft and naturally gorgeous dont fret… but i agree with the bridal shoot if u really hate the pics

Post # 33
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

what is done is done, you cannot change your hair (even though you looked beautiful). 


Take a deep breath and love yourself. 


Obsessing over things that have happened limits your present and your future. 

Post # 34
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ajohnson24:  You’re welcome, my dear! I think your own sanity and happiness is totally worth it! Stay positive and look forward to it! Good luck! Kiss

Post # 35
3696 posts
Sugar bee

You. Look. Gorgeous. I honestly think your hair looks amazing. If you’re set on doing a second set of shots you definitely can. My aunt hated the way her original wedding portraits came out so hired a different photographer a full year later to do another set. You’d never know they weren’t from the same day. 🙂

Post # 36
1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

First of all, you looked beautiful! Even if it’s hard to see it yourself.

Secondly, I totally understand this. I had some major regret after the wedding. I switched hairpieces for the reception and after seeing pictures I wish I had left in my ceremony headpiece the whole time. I don’t like where my planner placed the hair flower in my hair (she did it while I was eating dinner and I didn’t see it in a mirror), it’s an awkward angle and it makes me dislike some otherwise awesome photos. I was irritated about it at first (why didn’t my mom or sister fix it? etc etc) but the truth is there is nothing you can do to change it. The important thing is you married the love of your life! And it’s not the hair that makes you beautiful in the photos, it’s the happiness you exude!

If you have the money and it really bothers you, do another bridal shoot. For me it’s not worth the money, even if I wasn’t 100% with my hair (I liked my trial better too) the memories are more important than my vanity.

Post # 37
5 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

I really love it!!! I think you look gorgeus and very sweet!!!

why do you hate it? I have a friend that had the same feelings as you and she made a bridal portrait after the wedding wiht other hair… 


but I really thing you look sooo sweet! 


Post # 39
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You really look very lovely – your last photo reminds me of Rachel Weisz a lot.  The style you picked looks very timeless and classic.

@canarydiamond:  I agree that there might be some latent, subconscious thing that the OP is struggling with, and is taking out on the way her hair looked on her wedding day.  I don’t know if I’d be upset about the way my hair looked on a particular day 6 months later.  I might still have the story, but not be upset enough to share photos online with people and ask what to do.

OP, if you truly believe that it would be worth it to do a trash the dress or similar bridal shoot, go do it.  But I honestly believe it would be healthier for you to try and put this past you.  In ten years, is how your hair looked going to be such a big deal that you’re still going to be unhappy about it?

Post # 45
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

first, you look beautiful – you’re being way too hard on yourself.

second, you need to have your moment to be upset and cry whatever you want to do then you need to stop and move on.  You shouldn’t look back on your wedding day having it be clouded over something so trivial as your hair or lack of “good” photos.  I know your wedding day is such an important day in your life, but in the whole scheme of things it’s just 1 out of many wonderful other days you get to spend with your husband.  

And if all else fails – what about doing a “trash the dress”?  Not necessarily having to trash it but you can get your hair done again, put on your dress and take some awesome photos!

Post # 46
1741 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Your hair looked fine. It really is time to let this go…

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