(Closed) Please help! I hated my hair on my wedding day and I am OBSESSING over it!!

posted 9 years ago in Beauty
Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ajohnson24:  I honestly think the best advice came from the poster who said to read the news or think about people who have had disfiguring accidents… this is what I do when I feel ugly. It helps to kind of zoom out of your own life and get some perspective.

Post # 49
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493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had this exact same problem with my high school graduation hair.

I still look at those photos and absolutely cringe. I still remember the hair dresser fighting with my hair. It makes me sad.

This is why I am so worried about my wedding hair an I am going to go with something simple because I just do not trust hair dressers with cutting or styling, too many terrible experiences.

I say, if you can afford it, do a bridal shoot. You will be very happy and its not too late.

Post # 53
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oops see post below….double post

Post # 54
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ajohnson24:  

No matter what you do you can’t bring back your wedding day. Fact is no ones wedding day is 100% perfect….. Ask every bride on here who’s married and I guarantee you they would change something!

Both my photographer and videographers showed up late, my hair dresser was rushed to get to her next appt, my cake was missing flowers on it the way I wanted……

But guess what? Years from now when I look back….. When you look back….. When every other bride on here looks back….. It’s not gonna matter what your hair looked like, what decor you had, what flowers you had, what the cake looked like. What is going to matter is that you were married! You joined your lives as one surrounded by your family and friends! That’s what really matters!!

Trust me I got married almost a month ago and I’ve had my fair share of thoughts over small things I wish I could have changed….. But it doesn’t matter! What does matter is that I married my best friend….. The other stuff is just stuff.

If you truly can’t move past it do pics if it will make you feel better but in reality you got married 6 months ago and to try to recreate the day might be a lil far fetched at this point!

Im sure the cost of another photo shoot will not be cheap…. You have to ask yourself if it’s really with it? For the record….. You look amazing!! Stunning….. Many brides would die to look like that on their day!

I say take the money you are planning on spending on the photo shoot and go on a vacay and relax your mind and try to refocus on something else other than this ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 56
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I wouldn’t stress over it either, but it if really bothers you do a trash the dress session!

 

Post # 57
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ajohnson24:  Well I say do it if it will help to make you feel better! For the record my hair trial and hair on my wedding day were different too!

In my hair trial my hair was almost completely down adn on the day of the wedding it was pinned back more b/c it was kinda windy and I didn’t want it in my face.

Be sure to post pics if you have them done! Good luck and seriously relaxWink

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ajohnson24:  I’m giving you my advice . . . It’s my honest advice. You don’t have to take it if it doesn’t work for you, but I am trying to be helpful and do what you asked.

Post # 59
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

*hugs* 

I felt the same way about my hair (but it was my fault, I changed the style last minute with my stylist..so she did the best she could w/my description).

I had a “rock the dress” shoot about 3 months after my wedding (long story short – my photographer only got ONE picture with me and my 2 MOH’s and I was sick..SICK about it). 

My advice to you is to go and get all dolled up in your wedding finery and do a trash the dress/rock the dress session. You will have a TON of fun and have the option to be MORE adventurous than what you had for your wedding day. That’s exactly what I did and I felt a million times better about it.

And I never obsessed that I should have looked this way instead of that way (after my shoot). I loved the variety I had in looks. And I’m sure you will too.

 

And on a side note – you looked lovely in your wedding pictures ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 60
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m not just saying to make you feel better but honestly, I think you look very beautiful and elegant and sweet. You look just perfect ๐Ÿ™‚ Please try not to torture yourself over the little things – things that don’t even matter anymore in the big picture. I am not trying to undermine your feelings, but I really mean it that you look incredible just the way you are. If you really feel that bad, get dressed up again and do some more shots of you and your husband and wear your hair whatever way you like then. The most important thing is YOU ARE MARRIED!!! I mean, that is amazing!!

Post # 61
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Taghkanic State Park

Isn’t the important thing that you got married! Don’t panic about your hair, be happy that you shared an important milestone in your life with the person you love the most. Try to remember the good moments that you weren’t looking in a mirror for, like how you felt saying your vows and having your first dance and things like that.

It’s okay to take a moment to be angry or be sad, cry, scream, throw things. Then if you are still really upset about not getting enough photographs of the two of you and are really upset about how the ones you do have came out, schedule another sitting with your photographer. Dress up again, have your hair done differently, and take a few more shots to put up and frame.

But please don’t make yourself sick worrying over a few pictures, try be happy about the things that really matter about having a wedding. Like love and family and your new hubby. ๐Ÿ™‚

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