(Closed) Please help! I hated my hair on my wedding day and I am OBSESSING over it!!

posted 9 years ago in Beauty
Post # 62
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ajohnson24:  I’m glad I came across your post, because I’ve been going through the same thing myself now.  I just got married on May 4, 2013 and I absolutely hated the way the stylist did my hair that day.  Even though we had done a trial run almost 6 months prior, which was to incorporate loose, long curls/waves, on the day of the wedding she showed me a picture of a bride with much tighter curls and said to me, “Do you want to try this?”. I mean, can you believe this, on the DAY OF she suggests trying something different.

I told her I liked the curls, but I did NOT want to be left looking like Shirley Temple. Now in retrospect, I should have told her no, let’s stick with the original plan. At the time I said, ok just no Shirley Temple look.  Big mistake: I ended up looking like a little girl with curls so tight all around my head that my hair, which normally hangs straight down my back past my shoulder blades was up to the level of my jawline! I HATED it.  And the woman had another bride after me and rushed out. I knew I didn’t have much time to fix things, but I went into military mode and ran to the bathroom and with a comb and water, tried wetting it down to pull the curls loose. 

After hacking away at it for 20min, I finally got it to just below shoulder length and though it was a vast improvement over what was before, I was very disappointed because I knew even if I had done my OWN hair that morning, I would have done a much better job! It really worried me, because I knew hundreds of pictures would be taken that day, all capturing this crappy hairstyle. And I have the type of face that is not photogenic in all hairstyles. If you brush my hair one way, I may look fabulous, but if you brush it another way, I look like Ed Harris. Seriously! I was so upset.  But I felt the show must go on, and did the best I could with it and though there are some pics that make me cringe, there are a few that came out decent.

My advice to you is, don’t do a second shoot. It’s not the same thing–you can’t recapture that day. Instead, pick out the photos of you that, despite your hair, you are most happiest with–for ex, you like your expression, or the moment it was capturing. You’ll realize there was more with your wedding day that you were happy with than unhappy with, and the hair won’t be as big an issue. If I could go back in time, would I have chosen a different hairstylist/ hairstyle? Hell to the Yeah! But because time travel is impossible, I’m going to make the most of the pictures I DO love from that day and that’s it!  Thanks so much again for posting!

Post # 63
34 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

I love your hair in your photos 

Post # 64
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

when you look at pictures of other’s people grandparents or parents weddings, do you criticize in your mind the bride’s hair? probably not. think about it that way! nobody cares, it’s such a tiny detail!

Post # 65
2552 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i don’t see the point of doing another shoot. they’re not gonna be wedding pictures. they’re gonna be “me in a wedding dress pictures”, which i don’t think will do anything to change how the day went

Post # 66
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Something that might be fun, get all dolled up again.  Take some normal wedding images and then have some fun “trashing” your dress!  I’ve seen some really gorgeous ttd sessions where it was just a few feet in the water, so it wasn’t like pouring paint all over your dress.  Although, a nice paintball fight would have some amazing images as well.  And its fun!  And if your dress was a ton of money and you feel uncomfortable ruining it, look into a replica to destroy.  


On the other hand, I agree with the others on here.  You look gorgeous.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  Think of the amazing moments you had on your special day.  Focus on those and eventually you’ll lose your thoughts on what you thought were negative and soon enough you’ll see the beauty in those moments as well.

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