(Closed) Please Help. I Think I'm Agoraphobic… And It Is Ruining My Life

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Going through a lot of family stuff can leave anyone pretty shaken, and I think we all handle it in different ways. One thing to consider too is that in women, most psychological/psychiatric disorders tend to appear in late teens/early 20s. So although it may be a strong environmental factor, it might not be the only one and I do think that it’s important that you see a professional and not just try to “walk it off” or hope it goes away by itself. I definitely hear you on crappy insurance being an issue for all kinds of medical care. I wonder, does your school have any kind of counseling/psychological services office that you could use in the short term, or student clinic that may be able to evaluate you and help you get medications if needed? 

I know when I’m feeling super anxious, the first thing to go is my sense of perspective. Everything becomes urgent urgent urgent and then I become more stressed because of my stress and the whole thing becomes an ugly spiral. So if nothing else, try to get a step back and get some perspective. Even if you somehow don’t graduate right now, it doesn’t mean you won’t graduate. If you have to take a medical leave and take an incomplete on the semester (which might be better than failing, if that’s a justified concern), you’ll get back into classes and finish. It might not be the path you planned to follow, but as long as it gets you to your destination it’s OK.

I’m honestly not sure that advisor would be my initial contact of chioce if I were in your shoes. I’d definitely try to seek out some psychological services through the school and use that as your avenue towards anything else that you need. My experience with advisors has largely been that they are worthless and unhelpful and I think right now you need someone in your corner who can actually SUPPORT you… and unless your advisor is awesome, that may not happen. Plus, their advice is usually bad. You might want to find out what your school’s policy is for incompletes and discuss individually with the professors that there is an issue that may prevent you from completing during the term. I don’t think that legally you are required to disclose very much (though they may ask for a doctor’s note) and as long as you’ve been making some effort throughout the semester they should let you take a break and complete later.

I’m not saying to quit if you think you can tough it out, but hoping to provide some reassurance that even if it looks like it’s going to get worse before it gets better, that you’re going to be able to finish your degree. Right now it sounds like you need to focus on taking care of yourself, and that might mean having to prioritize differently. Hang in there!

Post # 4
28 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have been there. I can tell you that individual and then later on group therapy helped me immensely. Talk with your advisor at school about missing classes, they are usually really supportive and helpful in these situations when you are honest with them.

“This too shall pass” is the mantra that I try to remember when I am on the verge of a panic attack or feeling anxious over “going out.” You will get better but it wil take some work and practice. Start with a baby step, like calling a counselor (free through school?), your primary care physician, or your advisor. Just remember that they are all there to help you succeed in school and life. 

Post # 5
4272 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t really know what you are going through and I can not say for sure if you are really agoraphobic, but I thought I would just offer some support. I think you should relax and yes find help from a professional. I think with therapy and maybe medication, this is something that you can get through.

Post # 6
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Therapy to recognize and handle or avoid your triggers. Medication to ease the symptoms so you can go out in public. I have GAD and panic attacks. It got really bad during my divorce and I suffered from agoraphobia for a few months during that time. I was convinced everybody knew I was getting a divorce and they were judging me so I didn’t want to go out in public. I talked to my doctor and got on Zoloft to ease the symptoms with Xanax for acute panic attacks and night terrors. After a while I felt like a zombie on the meds so I weaned off the Zoloft and worked on identifying and dealing with my triggers. It took over a year for me to feel normal again in public.

Post # 7
3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Here to support you, I too suffered from anxiety and I know it’s horrifying and debilitating. HUGS to you! I was on medication for a year and it helped A LOT!!  I had a chemical imbalance.  Just  take a deep breath and consider talking to a counselor who can help you cope with your day to day tasks and also maybe your past. I hope you hang in there and feel better soon!!



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