Post # 1
Hello Bees! I have never posted before. I need your help bigtime!!!! I have been engaged for a year and a half and my wedding is this upcoming August 4th. I have been planning my wedding for a long time now and form the first month of engagement i purchased my dress and picked out my bridesmaid dresses and color scheme! Nowwwww… My fiances best friend met some girl and asked her to marry him 2 weeks later!!!! They are now having the wedding one month after meeting! I respect his friends wishes to marry this woman and support him. When they announced they were engaged( first time i met her lol) i told her what my colors were and the designer/make of my dress so she does not have the same stuff because she was rushing to the alter. i even showed the both of them pictures! My fiance is in his wedding party and all of our friends are going to both of our weddings. Im devistated. She obviously did this on purpose. My fiance and all of our friends are going to see my dress on this **** and i can not get this off my mind! My wedding is not some shotgun wedding! I have been with my fiance for 10 years and have been waiting for this for a very long time!! How could she do this I almost dont want to go to her wedding! What should i do! Theres no way she is going to change anything. I asked her to please change the dress because she knew i had ordered it when i first go engaged! She said she would try but will not change the bridesmaid colors. Oh and she copied my tuxes too! Wahhh i feel like such a baby but because my fiance is in her wedding party its eating me up inside. PLEASEEEEEE GIVE ME YOUR ADVICE!!! Thank you xo0x Congrats to all you Brides & Brides to BEE
Post # 3
I’d go to the wedding, even if you do have a bitter taste in your mouth. Luckily the weddings aren’t completely back to back, and I don’t think people will accuse you of copying her (even though she copied you). Be the bigger person and go, to support your FI’s friend at the very least.
Plus, I bet you look better in the dress anyway 🙂
Post # 4
I wouldn’t go to the wedding because it sounds like it will only upset you. This post is a little confusing because you never really state what she did to upset you though….
Post # 5
Well that is a pretty sh*tty thing for her to do if she really legitimately copied you exactly on purpose, but I think you need to focus on what is really important here! You are FINALLY getting married to the love of your life afting a 10 year long relationship! Try to not let her childishness bother you and DEFINITELY do not sink to her level by being petty back!
Post # 6
Man that’s totally messed up, I’d be ticked. Guess you shouldn’t have shown her she would have never been able to find everything you have on her own without seeing yours. Anyway to late for that. You have to go to the wedding because your Fiance is in it and you need to be there with him. I hate to say this but can you sell your dress and find a new one to make a point to her? The bridesmaid thing I guess you are stuck with if they already have their dresses? This totally sucks I am so bummed for you!
Post # 7
Firstly…congrats on your upcoming wedding! We are date twins!
Secondly…you have to remember that even if she copies you down to the very last detail you are still different people and your weddings will not be identical. She could have all the same things and her wedding will still be lightyears different than yours!
She sounds like a really immature woman with confidence issues, I wouldn’t take this for more than what it is- a women trying to copy your “perfect day”.
I would skip her wedding if it bothers you that much, not worth the emotional stress and she is no friend of yours lol
Post # 8
@Nicoso you are soo sweet! Your right she is no friend of mine! Thank you for your kind words! and Thank you for the help ladies! I showed her my things because i dint want her to have the same things i was having, considering she was rushing the wedding and all of our friend would be going to both weddings. I wanted to make it clear what i was having. I NEVER thought she would take everything i was doing and copy!! WHO DOES THAT LOL!!! I want to be there for my Fiance and im most likely going to go. but im just so hurt Goddd its so good to talk about this!!
Post # 9
Honestly Im in a similar situation with my brother and his fiance’. I NEVER tell her any of my details. My fiance’ and I have been 2gether 4 yrs and have been engaged since Sept 2010, before I even knew this girl exsisted. I have been wanting my wedding in this garden in the town where I live since I was 15!!!!!!!!! All my friends and family know this. Guess what she stole? Yes, and also similar to your situation they are getting married before me and fiance are. So I’ve had to change the venue, and guess what else she TRIED to take? My song I planned on walking down the aisle to. EVERYONE knows that is my favorite song so it was no surprise 2 them. When she told me what she was thinking about walking down the aisle to I spoke up. I do think it is distastful of her to steal your dress. I mean there are a million and one other dresses out there to choose from. I’m not trying to say that there isn’t going to be someone else in the world that’s not going to wear your dress, however, being that close to home should NOT be happening. I would say do whatever you feel like at the time. Me personally, I would not attend, and I don’t think it would matter much to her if you were there or not. For one, she obviously does not take how you feel into consideration. You DONT have to be there just because Fiance is there. But that decision is up to you. Just know sweetie you aren’t the only one in this situation. Good luck!
Post # 10
@lindseyl06: thank you for your kind words and advice! It sucks to know there are such conniving malicious people in the world. im sorry for your troubles too! I guess sometimes we have to face the fact that some people suck! haha. Good luck with your wedding and your Future Sister-In-Law xo
Post # 11
I’m really sorry. It was awful of her to do that. But honestly, you’d be surprised how many people won’t even notice that it’s the same dress. Moreover, if she’s this petty/insecure/drama-seeking, by the time your wedding comes around all of your mutual friends/acquaintances will know it. It won’t reflect on you at all. Rushing to the altar + immature, spiteful behavior does not bode well for a successful marriage. I’d bet they’ll already be split up or headed that way by August, which should provide much more interesting fodder for rumors/comments than the dress.
Post # 12
You are so in the right to be upset. Personally, even though it’s wrong, I would go to the wedding, but I would change up my wedding if I were you. I would get a different dress and would change the bridesmaid’s colors if at all possible. If it’s not, don’t worry. It’s out of your control and you’re just doing yourself more harm by stressing out about it. Your wedding will still be unique to you. Also, if you have one thing on your side, it’ll be time =) Hopefully, the attendees of her wedding that also go to yours won’t remember all her little details.
Post # 13
I’m sorry, But-your wedding will be different. You will look different in your dress, even if she does wear the same one. You will have different accessories. 2 of my cousins got married the same summer and wore the same dress-(not on purpose) but-only the mom of the 2nd bride and her mom noticed-no one else did! Look how many women on here choose the same dress-and how different (and beautiful) they all look! At the end of the day, you will be married to the one you love!
Post # 14
I think you should go to the wedding and hold your head up high, if your Fiance is going to the wedding and all your friends you don’t want to look like the party pooper and show her that she’s upset you, or feel left out when they’re talking about it. Also, I doubt she’ll pull together a wedding like yours in just a month, even if she has copied everything, she won’t be able to execute it to the same standard or give the same attention to detail, to the extent that people will not even register that the weddings are similar. People will also be too busy bitching abotu how shotgun the wedding is to really appreciate in anyway!
Post # 15
Who needs a shrink when i have you bees! Thank you all very much. I wish you continued love & happiness to you and your partners.
Post # 16
What a BITCH. Ugh. I’d be so mad. That said, I’d still go to the wedding. And get really trashed and just ruin the whole reception.
LOL. Just kidding. I think you have every right to be mad, but I’d still go. No sense burning bridges before they’re built (even though that’s kinda what she did).